What is something stupid or pointless that you still hide from your parents

themuffinman16 · November 2014

That H and I do the nasty. I have also never told them that I have ever drank too much.

When I was younger, I never told them that I couldn't handle our cookie rations. I NEED MORE SWEETS. Every morning, before everyone woke up, I would eat a whole tray of cookies. And I would let my father take the fall for hoovering the sweets. My step-mom would just roll her eyes and mock yell at him. My siblings called me the cookie monster.

LadyMillil · November 2014

My parents think that DH is the only guy I've ever dated. They wouldn't let me date because they were worried that I would fall into bed with a guy and get pregnant and not go to med school so I never told them when I was dating a guy until I wanted them to meet him, and DH was the only guy I introduced them to. I think they were very worried when I moved in with DH very quickly. They also didn't know we met online until the wedding day.

hellosweetie1015 · November 2014

It depends on which parent. I hide different things from different parents. I tried to hide my first tattoo from my dad and managed all of three days - I shared it on Facebook before any of my family had accounts other than cousins, who were cool and generally had tattoos themselves, but I forgot it was open on my computer and let him use it. It was only about three days old when he saw it though, so it wasn't like it was covered or anything, but still. I'd hoped to avoid the conversation all together.

princessofgenovia · November 2014

KatieinBkln said:

holyguacamole79 said:

My dad made a comment that he was so confident and proud that his daughters were virgin brides. I didn't have the heart to tell him that he was incorrect (about me, at least. I'm not going to discuss my sister's sex life with him)

Wow.

I mean, I know your dad is not remotely alone in this mindset, so I'm not trying to shit on him personally when I say this, but...Gross! Other people's sex lives are not anyone's business. Especially not one's own children's sex lives.

It grosses me out the way our culture seems to think that it "owns" children/adolescent bodies. Obviously it's extra weird and gendered among certain conservative religious communities in particular, but I've always found it creepy and weird how many parents seem to think it's their "job" to keep their kids virgins.

This just makes me really happy my dad is the way he is. He was little upset when he found out I'd started having sex. Not like the "woe is me my daughter is impure" but more "WTF my kid is growing up I don't like it", but my mom told him to chill the fuck out and he did. He did go "But, you're 15! You're too young!" and my mom went "I was 15 when I got pregnant with her" and then he shut right the hell up expect to say "For fucks sake use a condom, you're on the pill right? Can we put her on the shot and the pill at the same time? Double protection?", no dad...but it's a nice thought.

Neither of my parents placed a high value on my virginity. It just was. I didn't have sex, I was a virgin. I did have sex, I wasn't a virgin. The important thing was having safe sex. Not fusing my legs together until someone put a ring on it.

princessofgenovia · November 2014

kat1114 said:

I feel lucky that my mom doesn't get angry about too much.My favorite was I lived in New York for a semester, and my roommate and I bought fake IDs. When my mom came to visit, I told her I bought a fake ID and she just laughed. When I finally moved back home a few months later, I told her again and she said she thought I was joking. She asked to see the ID. I thought for sure she would take it away. Then she said, "Do you want to go to the casino?" The family that underage gambles together stays together.

When I was 17 my mom asked if I had a fake ID, I did not and I told I didn't and she goes "Well fuck, get one!" because there was a cool band playing at the casino but I couldn't get in. I got one finally when I was 19 and she was happier then I was because we could go out together to see bands.

l9i · November 2014

LadyMillil said:

My parents think that DH is the only guy I've ever dated. They wouldn't let me date because they were worried that I would fall into bed with a guy and get pregnant and not go to med school so I never told them when I was dating a guy until I wanted them to meet him, and DH was the only guy I introduced them to. I think they were very worried when I moved in with DH very quickly. They also didn't know we met online until the wedding day.

I did this too but for different reasons. My parents think DH is like the only guy I've ever laid my eyes and hands on or something. I hardly, if ever, brought anyone around and never talked about anyone because my parents are nosy and I didn't feel like playing 10 zillion questions or them making a big deal over it. I also was (am?) picky so I feel like those high school relationship never became anything serious. So because DH is the first that was really around and serious they just think I dated no one else... silly them, I just never told them when I was 'going to hang out with the girls' ha

jenna8984 · November 2014

l9i said:

LadyMillil said:

My parents think that DH is the only guy I've ever dated. They wouldn't let me date because they were worried that I would fall into bed with a guy and get pregnant and not go to med school so I never told them when I was dating a guy until I wanted them to meet him, and DH was the only guy I introduced them to. I think they were very worried when I moved in with DH very quickly. They also didn't know we met online until the wedding day.
I did this too but for different reasons. My parents think DH is like the only guy I've ever laid my eyes and hands on or something. I hardly, if ever, brought anyone around and never talked about anyone because my parents are nosy and I didn't feel like playing 10 zillion questions or them making a big deal over it. I also was (am?) picky so I feel like those high school relationship never became anything serious. So because DH is the first that was really around and serious they just think I dated no one else... silly them, I just never told them when I was 'going to hang out with the girls' ha

My parents thought the opposite. I have a brother one year older than me, so in high school I hung out with A LOT of male friends that I made through my brother. I never messed around with any of them but I'm pretty sure every time my mom came home from work and there was a guy on the couch, she totally assumed we were hooking up. (to which she didn't care but she probably thinks I've been with 5 times more than I have lol)

l9i · November 2014

jenna8984 said:

l9i said:

LadyMillil said:

My parents think that DH is the only guy I've ever dated. They wouldn't let me date because they were worried that I would fall into bed with a guy and get pregnant and not go to med school so I never told them when I was dating a guy until I wanted them to meet him, and DH was the only guy I introduced them to. I think they were very worried when I moved in with DH very quickly. They also didn't know we met online until the wedding day.
I did this too but for different reasons. My parents think DH is like the only guy I've ever laid my eyes and hands on or something. I hardly, if ever, brought anyone around and never talked about anyone because my parents are nosy and I didn't feel like playing 10 zillion questions or them making a big deal over it. I also was (am?) picky so I feel like those high school relationship never became anything serious. So because DH is the first that was really around and serious they just think I dated no one else... silly them, I just never told them when I was 'going to hang out with the girls' ha

My parents thought the opposite. I have a brother one year older than me, so in high school I hung out with A LOT of male friends that I made through my brother. I never messed around with any of them but I'm pretty sure every time my mom came home from work and there was a guy on the couch, she totally assumed we were hooking up. (to which she didn't care but she probably thinks I've been with 5 times more than I have lol)

During the end of my senior year of high school I became friends with a group of guys (where I met DH). It was so funny because I'd tell my mom I was going to 'Allen's' house, then 'Bob's' house, then 'Cory's' house, then back to 'Allen's', etc and at first she get excited because she thought I was finally dating but then became concerned when the names kept switching. Like I said I hated the pestering and I knew what she was thinking when I'd go hangout with them and I was getting a huge kick out of her thinking I was going down the line (a one point she actually asked me if I was and it where I broke it to her they were just friends and I may have been making her think that for kicks) lmao... then I brought home DH

Sugargirl1019 · November 2014

I'm so boring, I never smoked or did drugs, I don't have any piercings except my one in my ears, and I don't have tattoos. I never snuck out, I never stole a car, I never drank alcohol before 21.

And I've never been to Boston in the fall. (Anyone?)

I told my mom when I had sex for the first time (because I was so upset). Man, I don't have anything hidden from her other than my husband and I use sex toys haha. I never had any interest in disobeying or doing something "bad".

jenna8984 · November 2014

@sugargirl1019 I pray my future child is like you. But karma will be a bitch and they will probably be worse than I was. Lol

JeeGooDowster · November 2014

Smoking...and at 33 years old...if i have one at a family wedding, my heart still races when its outside afraid of getting caught! LOL

slothiegal · November 2014

Count me in the "parents don't know about tattoo" club. I think I got mine about....ten years ago now?

jdluvr06 · November 2014

I can't think of anything I hide from my mom. I can talk about anything with her. Well... I would never tell her I'm not a big fan of her sugar cookies. Does that count as hiding something?

LadyMillil · November 2014

Sugargirl1019 said:

I'm so boring, I never smoked or did drugs, I don't have any piercings except my one in my ears, and I don't have tattoos. I never snuck out, I never stole a car, I never drank alcohol before 21. And I've never been to Boston in the fall. (Anyone?) I told my mom when I had sex for the first time (because I was so upset). Man, I don't have anything hidden from her other than my husband and I use sex toys haha. I never had any interest in disobeying or doing something "bad".

We can be boring together! I haven't done any of those things except drink before 21, but the legal drinking age is 19 here and I was of age the first time I had a drink.

novella1186 · November 2014

How do you people hide tattoos?!!

I have one on my side (my first one that I got as an 18th bday gift to myself) that my dad didn't know about for a while. Until I came home to visit for Christmas break. My pajama shirt was a little bit short so when I reached for something he saw it right away, like tattoo radar vision. He pretty much just rolled his eyes and gave me the look of disapproval.

I never outright tell my parents about my tattoos but sooner or later they always see em anyway.

VulgarGirl · November 2014

My parents don't know about my tattoos or that I'm gay. I'm kidding, I've got sleeves and they were at the damn wedding. They know.

I can't think of anything specific I hide from them or keep them in the dark about. There's probably some stupid shit from high school they still don't know about. Oh, they don't know how old I was the first time I smoked pot. They think I was older then I was. They also don't exactly know everything I've tried drug wise.

beethery · November 2014

novella1186 said:

How do you people hide tattoos?!!

I have one on my side (my first one that I got as an 18th bday gift to myself) that my dad didn't know about for a while. Until I came home to visit for Christmas break. My pajama shirt was a little bit short so when I reached for something he saw it right away, like tattoo radar vision. He pretty much just rolled his eyes and gave me the look of disapproval.

I never outright tell my parents about my tattoos but sooner or later they always see em anyway.

One is on top of my foot, and the other three big ones that they don't know about are all on my left thigh.

I wear pants all the time (always did even pre-tattoos) or long dresses.

slothiegal · November 2014

novella1186 said:

How do you people hide tattoos?!!

I have one on my side (my first one that I got as an 18th bday gift to myself) that my dad didn't know about for a while. Until I came home to visit for Christmas break. My pajama shirt was a little bit short so when I reached for something he saw it right away, like tattoo radar vision. He pretty much just rolled his eyes and gave me the look of disapproval.

I never outright tell my parents about my tattoos but sooner or later they always see em anyway.

Mine's on my hip; when I first got it, I made sure to wear a cut of bikini bottom that would cover it. Now, I really don't care if they were to find out, but I can't even remember the last time they would've seen me in a swimsuit.

climbingsingle · November 2014

My brother tattooed "Cool story bro" on his forearm this year. I'm not kidding. He hid it from my parents for as along as he could.

My parents know all about my tattoos. My mom actually took me to get my first one when I was 18. But she didn't get her first one until she was 60.

novella1186 · November 2014

ClimbingBrideNY said:

My brother tattooed "Cool story bro" on his forearm this year. I'm not kidding. He hid it from my parents for as along as he could.

My parents know all about my tattoos. My mom actually took me to get my first one when I was 18. But she didn't get her first one until she was 60.

The family that inks together...

jenna8984 · November 2014

When I was 13 on family vacation in Myrtle Beach my mom was like "Hey look- belly button piercing for $20- you should do it!" And I thought she was just fucking with me so I laughed it off. 2 years later when I asked her to take me and get it done she was like "$50?! See, you should have gotten it in Myrtle Beach when I told you to!" hahah yea because a cheap piercing is never sketchy....

My first tattoo was a giant tramp stamp at 18 so there was no hiding that but it's pretty hibiscus flowers so they both liked it. I have 4 more, and my half sleeve which they now brag to their friends about lol

My dad knows most of my finances because he's like my personal investor. He has done very well for himself and I trust him 100% with money matters so I often talk to him about my salary and 401k and stuff like that.

vikinganna87 · November 2014

I had an Italian boyfriend named Giuseppe for about 7 months senior year in high school that I kept secret from my parents. He was 24, I was 17. The first time we went out he came to my house and as soon as my parents found out he was a grad student, they were like no he's too old. They'd been raving about this Russian movie Burnt by the Sun and I knew it was about 3 hours long so I convinced them to let us just see that movie in the theater and then come home. [We made out by the playground down the street]. My parents thought that was it, but I continued seeing him; riding my bike to his house during study hall and stopping by his apt after swim practice. Eventually it became weird that he never really hung out with my friends (he also really hated America, I didn't) and I broke it off. My parents still mention that movie and I feel guilty because I never saw it but pretend that I was just as moved by it as they were.

He wasn't a bad guy, but now in retrospect it does seem kinda creepy.

climbingsingle · November 2014

jenna8984 said:

When I was 13 on family vacation in Myrtle Beach my mom was like "Hey look- belly button piercing for $20- you should do it!" And I thought she was just fucking with me so I laughed it off. 2 years later when I asked her to take me and get it done she was like "$50?! See, you should have gotten it in Myrtle Beach when I told you to!" hahah yea because a cheap piercing is never sketchy....
My first tattoo was a giant tramp stamp at 18 so there was no hiding that but it's pretty hibiscus flowers so they both liked it. I have 4 more, and my half sleeve which they now brag to their friends about lol
My dad knows most of my finances because he's like my personal investor. He has done very well for himself and I trust him 100% with money matters so I often talk to him about my salary and 401k and stuff like that.

Two things. I used to vacation with my family in Myrtle Beach! We went every year from 86-96. Ah, the memories!

Also, my first tattoo was a tramp stamp too. But in my defense, it was 1998 before the tramp stamp was officially a thing. At the time, no one I knew had a tattoo there.

esstee33 · November 2014

I've hidden different things from different parents, but both of them know basically everything. My dad doesn't know that I was a nude model when I was 18. My mom knew and couldn't have cared less. I have always kept my actual sex life private from her. She always wanted to be the "cool mom" who was more like a friend, and she would give me graphic detail about her sex life that was, obviously, NOT WELCOME. So I've always lead her to believe that I'm way, way more conservative about sex than I actually am; if she doesn't think I'm having sex, there's nothing for her to pry about.

Nobody knows anything about my finances. My grandma has a vague idea from a conversation we had a few months ago in which I explained that I'd just needed major car repairs and my cat has a serious health problem that requires ongoing care, but that's about it. Neither of my parents have ever been money management role models, so the fewer of their opinions I get, the better, haha.

lovesclimbing · November 2014

Drinking. Both H and I came from very conservative Christian families who consider drinking to be wrong. While we are both still Christian and consider ourselves pretty conservative, we do drink occasionally. If our parents straight up asked, we wouldn't lie about it, but since they haven't, there's really no reason to bring it up around them. And we don't drink that much ourselves, a glass of wine or a couple beers a couple times a month, so it's not like we deliberately go without when they're around or purposefully try to mislead them.

buttercup1958 · November 2014

Therapy and my sex life. My parents don't know how many times I sneak out to meet up with guys that I had crushes on. They were too focus on my brother getting in to trouble so they never paid attention to what I was doing. Therapy isn't any of their business either so I haven't told them that. Honestly I don't have very deep relationships with my parents. I think the way I grew up and how we are so different value wise prohibits that. But I'm ok with it. I know they love me and I love them. I just view most of our interactions as business casual.

jenna8984 · November 2014

buttercup1958 said:

Therapy and my sex life. My parents don't know how many times I sneak out to meet up with guys that I had crushes on. They were too focus on my brother getting in to trouble so they never paid attention to what I was doing. Therapy isn't any of their business either so I haven't told them that. Honestly I don't have very deep relationships with my parents. I think the way I grew up and how we are so different value wise prohibits that. But I'm ok with it. I know they love me and I love them. I just view most of our interactions as business casual.

@buttercup1958 Weird- I have always felt the same way! They were great when I was little but once I turned like 16-18, they treat me like one of their adult friends, not as their child. Like when I call them, they have nothing to say except for "how about that Patriots game?" and then they awkwardly hang up. They never ask about my life, my house, my husband, my friends, my job. When people ask them if they are flying home to my brother and I for Christmas or special occasions like baby showers, they scoff and say "Why would we do that?" They love us, but they treat us like their old buddy from down the street or something instead of their kids.

l9i · November 2014

jenna8984 said:

buttercup1958 said:

Therapy and my sex life. My parents don't know how many times I sneak out to meet up with guys that I had crushes on. They were too focus on my brother getting in to trouble so they never paid attention to what I was doing. Therapy isn't any of their business either so I haven't told them that. Honestly I don't have very deep relationships with my parents. I think the way I grew up and how we are so different value wise prohibits that. But I'm ok with it. I know they love me and I love them. I just view most of our interactions as business casual.

@buttercup1958 Weird- I have always felt the same way! They were great when I was little but once I turned like 16-18, they treat me like one of their adult friends, not as their child. Like when I call them, they have nothing to say except for "how about that Patriots game?" and then they awkwardly hang up. They never ask about my life, my house, my husband, my friends, my job. When people ask them if they are flying home to my brother and I for Christmas or special occasions like baby showers, they scoff and say "Why would we do that?" They love us, but they treat us like their old buddy from down the street or something instead of their kids.

I have a similar relationship with my parents for a variety of reasons. There is also some sort of shit stirred up between my mom and brother and I've gotten dragged in too many times so I've learned to keep them at an arm's length always. Dad's fine, he understands and we'll talk and do stuff more often.

I personally think my friend's relationship with her mom is more weird. Since HS her mom has been her BFF. All for being friendly but to the point that my friend doesn't have many friends anymore beyond her mom. Also, she just finished college and is content just living at home and not look for a job (doesn't even work part time). Now that mom is a friend and not a 'mom' she doesn't want to push her to move out and find a job... makes me sad

buttercup1958 · November 2014

jenna8984 @ l9i I'm really happy I'm not the only one ha! It use to bother me but I've accepted it. My parents call a it's usually a 5 min talk or less. People use to ask me if I'm ever homesick. I just shurg my shoulders. I think where I live now is my home and I just visit family. l9i that does sound sad. I couldn't imagine living like that. Hopefully, she isn't in for a rude awakening.

l9i · November 2014

buttercup1958 said:

jenna8984 @ l9i I'm really happy I'm not the only one ha! It use to bother me but I've accepted it. My parents call a it's usually a 5 min talk or less. People use to ask me if I'm ever homesick. I just shurg my shoulders. I think where I live now is my home and I just visit family. l9i that does sound sad. I couldn't imagine living like that. Hopefully, she isn't in for a rude awakening.

As for my parents, we live in the same town. Often mutual people ask me how they are doing or what they are up to and think it's weird when I say "Good I guess, I don't really know what they are up to".

As for my friend, I'm sure she'll have a rude awakening at some point. Or maybe she's just waiting to marry rich, move in with him, and never work lol. Who knows! We obviously aren't as close as we once upon a time.

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