Hello, fellow brides/brides-to-be!
I have absolutely no idea what to do regarding this situation so I'm hoping to get some insight. My FI's parents are divorced, have been for about 10 years. My future MIL is remarried, my future FIL is not. However, they have a civil and respectful (as far as I know) relationship between the two of them because of their adult children. That is the background.
When my two older sisters were married (whose in-laws are still married), my mother demanded that there be a dance for her and my dad, and the in-laws. More specifically, the song "Remember When" by Alan Jackson. For those who haven't heard the song, it is very touching song about family and growing old together. My mom has already stated she wants this song at our wedding as well. But what about my divorced in-laws? There is a chance that they may dance together for that song, but I don't want to play it and have it assumed that they should. I don't want them to feel uncomfortable, either. But this is something that is important to my mother. Should I have a serious talk with my mother about it? She knows my future in-laws are divorced, but I don't think she sees the potential awkwardness associated with her request. And she and my father are helping us financially with our wedding, and she is very sensitive/defensive, so I hesitate making certain decisions that overrule what she wants.
Or should I leave this entirely up to my FI, since it involves his parents and he knows them better than I do?
Thank you!