Between what ages is being a flower girl appropriate?

[Deleted User] · October 2014

I have two neices, one is going to be 13 and the other 14 by the time of my wedding. I want to ask them to be flower girls but are they too old for that? I wouldn't mind not having flower girls at all (because I don't know any more little girls) except I already have a ringbearer. I feel as though I should have flower girls because I do have a ringbearer to balance it out.

[Deleted User] · October 2014

I think they're too old to be flower girls.

And I think needing flower girls because you have a ring bearer is silly. It's like having even numbers of bridesmaids and groomsmen; unnecessary and just for show. If you want your nieces involved in your wedding, either make them bridesmaids or if they're comfortable with public speaking, make them readers. Or you can just invite them as guests. If you want them to be "special" guests, you can get them a corsage to help them stand out as VIPs.

chibiyui · October 2014

I hady 3 year old niece as my ring bearer, I had no flower girl.

climbingsingle · October 2014

That's way too old to be a flower girl.

tammym1001 · October 2014

I had a ring bearer with no flower girl. He just walked down the aisle by himself.

southernbelle0915 · October 2014

I don't think they'd want to do it and they'd see it as a "baby job".

1) you don't need a flower girl at all (we didn't have a FG or RB)

2) not everyone needs to be involved. it's an honor to attend as a guest.

holyguacamole79 · October 2014

I agree with everyone else. We had flower girls and no ring bearer. I don't think a 13 y/o would be too excited for a flower girl role.

vmj23 · October 2014

I agree with everyone else, that seems too old. You don't need a flower just because you have a ring bearer. I'd skip if I were you.

theartistformerlyknownas · October 2014

I would have been mortified to be a flower girl at 13. Way too old. Skip it.

cowgirl8238 · October 2014

I agree with everyone else...they are too old. You don't need a flower girl (we didn't have one). If you want to honor them they can be: Bridesmaids (no Jr.!), Readers, Guests with a corsage, Guest.

ohannabelle · October 2014

Waaaay too old. If you want them sincerely to be part of the wedding party, they can be bridesmaids.

Jen4948 · October 2014

There's no need for flower girls or ring bearers.

These girls are too old to be flower girls and probably won't appreciate being asked to fill that role. More appropriate roles for them would be those of bridesmaid or reader.

larrygaga · October 2014

[Deleted User] · October 2014

Thanks for the input, after reading over everyone's replies, I decided to ask the girls to be junior bridesmaids. as for my ring bearer, something I saw my friend do in her wedding was have the 'bearer' carry a sign that said 'here comes the love of your life' down the aisle.' He didn't actually carry the rings. I think I liked that approach.

holyguacamole79 · October 2014

Knottie68414288 said:
Thanks for the input, after reading over everyone's replies, I decided to ask the girls to be junior bridesmaids. as for my ring bearer, something I saw my friend do in her wedding was have the 'bearer' carry a sign that said 'here comes the love of your life' down the aisle.' He didn't actually carry the rings. I think I liked that approach.

Just ask them to be bridesmaids. No need for the "junior". People will know that they are younger; there is no need to point it out.

abbyj700 · October 2014

holyguacamole79 said:

Thanks for the input, after reading over everyone's replies, I decided to ask the girls to be junior bridesmaids. as for my ring bearer, something I saw my friend do in her wedding was have the 'bearer' carry a sign that said 'here comes the love of your life' down the aisle.' He didn't actually carry the rings. I think I liked that approach.
Just ask them to be bridesmaids. No need for the "junior". People will know that they are younger; there is no need to point it out.

Ugh I hate the word bridesmaid. You aren't my damn maid - you're my friend. It's like - the groom gets his "men" to support him in this crazy decision to get married and you bitches? You get to hold my train and tend to me as I get dressed. Be my honored "maid." LoL

Jen4948 · October 2014

anaksha said:

Thanks for the input, after reading over everyone's replies, I decided to ask the girls to be junior bridesmaids. as for my ring bearer, something I saw my friend do in her wedding was have the 'bearer' carry a sign that said 'here comes the love of your life' down the aisle.' He didn't actually carry the rings. I think I liked that approach.

I would not have a ring bearer carry a sign. First, depending on how big your ring bearer is, he may not be big enough to hold one a sign up.

Second, many people do find those "cute" here-comes-the-bride signs to be at best redundant and at worst off-putting due to the "cutesiness." I mean, you have a wedding march and bridesmaids preceding the bride, so it just seems like extra unnecessary stuff at best to include a kid. And lots of little kids don't seem to like them either-every photo I've seen where a ring bearer or other kid in the processional holds a sign, they are scowling.

Ring bearers don't have to carry anything to participate. If you don't want him to carry the real rings, then I'd just have him walk down the aisle, take photos with him, and let it go at that.

artbyallie · October 2014

abbyj700 said:

holyguacamole79 said:

Thanks for the input, after reading over everyone's replies, I decided to ask the girls to be junior bridesmaids. as for my ring bearer, something I saw my friend do in her wedding was have the 'bearer' carry a sign that said 'here comes the love of your life' down the aisle.' He didn't actually carry the rings. I think I liked that approach.
Just ask them to be bridesmaids. No need for the "junior". People will know that they are younger; there is no need to point it out.

Ugh I hate the word bridesmaid. You aren't my damn maid - you're my friend. It's like - the groom gets his "men" to support him in this crazy decision to get married and you bitches? You get to hold my train and tend to me as I get dressed. Be my honored "maid." LoL

Uh, it refers to 'maiden,' as in an unmarried woman. Not a servant. Queens and princesses also once had 'maids of honor' in that noble ladies kept them company in their rooms. Also not servants.

romanticoz · November 2014

i have heard of mini/junior brides... maybe that can be an option.

Jen4948 · November 2014

Knottie58523370 said:

i have heard of mini/junior brides... maybe that can be an option.

No. Not only is this creepy, the bride herself should be the only bride present and the groom himself should be the only groom present. (Or if it's a same-sex wedding, then the couple themselves should be the only brides or grooms present.) This turns the kids into "props" which is inappropriate.

agenevieve22016 · November 2014

Junior BMs

Jen4948 · November 2014

agenevieve22016 said:
Junior BMs

Just bridesmaids. No junior.

sassyfrass2014 · November 2014

FG's and RB's aren't like salt and pepper shakers. You do not need a matching set, and you do not need one if you have the other. I have two flower girls (my nieces), but FI isn't asking his sister to pop out another boy so he can have two RB's (his nephew) to match!

I agree with the above. Junior Bridesmaids and Junior Brides are silly. Either make them full bridesmaids or honor them by inviting them to your wedding!

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