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I really want to wear a veil

suzcainsuzcain member
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I know that veils are only supposed to be for first weddings because it's supposed to represent virginity and purity (and how many of us were actually virginal the first time around?), but...  I really want to wear a veil.  A traditional blusher.
1.  I didn't have a traditional wedding at all the first time around, and I'm all about tradition for this one and doing all the things I missed out on the first time.
2.  Even though I would have been legit in wearing one the first time, I was no more a virgin or pure then than I am now.  Actually, I am probably more so now because I only dated a few people in the 14 years between my divorce and meeting my fiance.  LOL!  :-P
3.  The idea of my fiance getting to lift my veil makes me happy.
4.  Most importantly, this may be my second wedding, but as far as I'm concerned this is the first and only one that counts.

Our wedding is going to be pretty small - immediate family and very close friends.  Can I get away with this?  Anyone else out there going with a blusher?
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    photokittyphotokitty mod
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    edited March 2014
    So wear a veil. I wore a birdcage veil…I guess that's a type of blusher.
    It has no baring on your guests being properly hosted - therefore it is a tradition, not etiquette. It doesn't hurt anyone if you wear a veil. If you want to wear one do it :)

    No need to justify wearing one via your list. Just wear it and if anyone makes any comments, they are rude, not you.

    FWIW, If your dad walks you down the aisle he will lift your veil, not your FI. Unless you keep the veil in front for the whole ceremony (not recommended with a blusher).

    GL! :)
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    MikesAngieMikesAngie member
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    I wore a veil, but not a traditional blusher only because I don't like them personally. 

    If you want to wear a veil then do so. 
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    grumbledoregrumbledore member
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    I'm a second-timer and I'm wearing a birdcage veil.  I really think anyone who has an issue with it can piss off, frankly.

    I feel exactly like you do - this is my last marriage, I'm not going to compromise on things for stupid reasons and regret it later.

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    suzcainsuzcain member
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    Thanks, chickies!  :-)  I'm now leaning away from the blusher - my dad would be soooo uncomfortable with lifting it.  But definitely going with the veil.  And my fiance has the same response as y'all. 
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    ArtisSkeneArtisSkene member
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    I hate veils, I think they look ridiculous, I always have, but that's just me. If you want to wear a veil, wear one. 
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    LizzieyounceLizzieyounce member
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    I wore a birdcage for my wedding, and I'd been married before. Go for it!
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    lkristenjlkristenj member
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    I had no idea about veils representing purity or anything like that. Do these traditions even hold true anymore?

    Maybe it's just because I'm young and don't know much about wedding traditions (I'm learning) but I never would have batted an eye at anyone wearing a veil. First wedding, second wedding, virgin, not... never would have crossed my mind. Again, maybe that has to do with me not knowing any better, but then you have to ask yourself who is really going to know or care that much about tradition? Who in their right mind would call you out on something like wearing a veil, or wearing white vs ivory for that matter? That seems incredibly rude.

    This is my first wedding (yes I know I'm on the second wedding board) and I'm absolutely doing a veil with a traditional blusher. Two-tier veils are actually harder to find in my experience, if that helps any. I ended up deciding to make my own.

    I love veils and I say if you want one, wear one and rock it!

    I just had to come over and chime in because the post intrigued me (have I mentioned I love veils?). Please don't be mad. :P

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    Go for it!!!!
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    lauranchadlauranchad member
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    Well, you can go with the tradition that veils are to hide the bride from the evil spirits as she walks down the isle as in some traditions! Just because it is one person's belief, doesn't make it everyone's belief.  You'll look beautiful!
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    ADoyle16ADoyle16 member
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    I was also married before, but it was a short marriage. Still, I'm wearing a veil because it's what I want to do, along with the white dress.
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    pesematologypesematology member
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    Whatever you do represents whatever you want it to represent. There's no like, universal dictionary of this stuff where someone will look it up and be like, "Right there, there's the definition of veils at weddings, it can only mean one thing and you're a liar!" Even if there was, a person who wanted to do that would be pretty deranged.

    Wear what you want and recommend therapy to anyone who has issues about it.
    "I wish yo azz all tha dopest up in yo' marriages"
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    decembergrl2014decembergrl2014 member
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    I'm getting married for the second time in December, and not only am I wearing a veil again, I'm wearing a gorgeous, cathedral length veil with bling and a white wedding dress. If people want to roll their eyes or shoot me dirty looks, let them. It won't matter to me one bit. It's your wedding, whether it's your second or tenth. Wear what you think will make you look and feel beautiful!

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    samanthacainsamanthacain member
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    Second time bride here. Wearing a birdcage veil. Don't let anyone dictate your fashion choices.
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    travelfiftytravelfifty member
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    Dear Suzcain,

    Please wear a veil if that is what makes you happy.  It is funny, until I hear on the Knot video that veils were reserved for first time brands I had never heard of such a thing.  I am sure other people won't  know the difference.  And if they do, then so what.  Do what makes you happy.


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    Jells2dot0Jells2dot0 mod
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    The OP posted this in March and has not been active since August. I'm closing this post since the OP no longer needs advice, 

     







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