SO and I have everything but the date figured out for our May wedding. The venue is 4 hours and 45 minutes away. We had planned originally to elope and have a huge party when we came home. The reason for that is because I don't want a big wedding. He was disappointed but didn't want to force me into a wedding. He is now on board with eloping. I don't want him to resent our wedding because his parents weren't there to share the moment; so recently I told him we could try to compromise with parents and very few friends. Our elopement package still allows for a maximum of ten guests. My question is should we invite them to a one hour event 4 hours and 45 minutes away in the first place? It's a long drive and we wouldn't be paying for anyone's trip. It isn't to be rude, we just can't afford everything we're doing and then paying for their trips and meals. I think I'm making this more complicated than it really is.