My mother and her boyfriend became engaged a few years ago. There have been complications in their wedding planning, and she hasn't been able to plan anything. Even when they marry, it will have to pretty much be quick and on the spot, however no one is actually sure when this will be. So, their options are pretty slim with any planning (can't plan a venue, party, etc.)
My fiance proposed over this past summer, and plan on taking our time with wedding planning (tentative date of November 2016). I eagerly would like her to be apart of the planning process because she adopted me and raised me on her own, of which I am truly grateful. However, every time I discuss information or ideas for the wedding, she consistently replies with "That's exactly what I envisioned for my wedding" and "I would pick that in a heartbeat." Even when we I picked my wedding dress, she said "I was looking for a dress exactly like yours."
I understand that this is her first wedding and marriage, however I find that she is having a hard time differenciating between my wedding and hers. This is causing a big rift between us and I find that I no longer want to share anything with her for fear that she will continue to make those statements. I'm not sure how to say anything to her. I don't think she is doing it out of malice, and means to say that she likes what I am choosing. But I am not sure how to say anything without hurting all parties involved.
Any advise?