I want to thank the snarky brides for saving me from making a gigantic ass of myself.
My husband and I were unhappy with our elopement and so was my family. We were planning to have a PPD to soothe any hurt feelings and have some better "wedding" memories. We were going to do a church ceremony and I was going to wear a puffy gown. We were going to have a "first dance" and cut a tiered cake together. I laugh and shake my head over how foolish we were.
After I read some posts on this forum about PPDs, I realized that what we were doing was unacceptable. A couple who has been married for five years cannot have a "wedding" unless there was a divorce. My husband and I needed to own our decision to elope and live with it. There were some beautiful aspects to our elopement that I will never forget.
Now, some members of my family were very excited about my PPD. However, I know that I would have received some epic side eye from some of our guests.
My husband and I have come to our senses. I know my husband is relieved that we aren't having a PPD anymore. When I told him that I wanted to use the PPD money buy a home instead, my husband grinned and gave me a kiss. We are going to celebrate our fifth wedding anniversary by exchanging new rings in our new home and enjoying a romantic getaway. We are a low key couple which is why we eloped in the first place.
Thank you so much for your honest words about PPDs. It is so strange how the unabashed opinions of strangers made such an impression on me. The choice between a long term investment and a ridiculous pretend wedding was easy to make. I was being immature and living in a damn fantasy world.
Keep on being honest instead of telling people what they want to hear about PPDs. Thank you ladies!