Add more items to fulfilled registry or "chance" it?

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  runsonveggies member

  

  January 2015

  In addition to a gift registry I made a Honeyfund registry so guests can help us fund our honeymoon (which we won't be having right away cause we'll be broke after wedding planning). It would be cash gifts but at least your guests would know where the cash is going. (They print out little gift certificates saying they are funding your food, your hotel stay, whatever.) If you truly don't need any more physical stuff then you could also ask for donations to a charity in your name. Otherwise I would just add more items to the registry. It's better than ending up with a dozen toasters!

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  mikenberger member

  

  January 2015

  Knottie7387131 said:

  In addition to a gift registry I made a Honeyfund registry so guests can help us fund our honeymoon (which we won't be having right away cause we'll be broke after wedding planning). It would be cash gifts but at least your guests would know where the cash is going. (They print out little gift certificates saying they are funding your food, your hotel stay, whatever.) If you truly don't need any more physical stuff then you could also ask for donations to a charity in your name. Otherwise I would just add more items to the registry. It's better than ending up with a dozen toasters!

  NO.

  
  

  Do not do this. Ever. Under any circumstance. This is BEYOND tacky and awful. 

  
  

  1- those websites take your guests gift money. If they give $100, they get $3 of it. Don't you want to get all of your guests gift instead of 97% of it? Just think of it on the whole of ALL your cash gifts, how much money you'll be missing out on and how much of your guests money they've essentially thrown into the breeze. It's so incredibly rude to do. 

  
  

  2- You are asking for money. You never ask for money. And people aren't dumb. They know that you want money, most likely. It's the most liquid of all gifts and easiest to use. If someone buys you something from your registry, they were going to buy you a gift regardless. And some people will NEVER give cash. They only give boxed gifts.

  
  

  Please do NOT do a honeyfund or anything else. Including asking for charitable donations.

  
  

  
  

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  flantastic member

  

  January 2015

  Knottie7387131 said:

  In addition to a gift registry I made a Honeyfund registry so guests can help us fund our honeymoon (which we won't be having right away cause we'll be broke after wedding planning). It would be cash gifts but at least your guests would know where the cash is going. (They print out little gift certificates saying they are funding your food, your hotel stay, whatever.) If you truly don't need any more physical stuff then you could also ask for donations to a charity in your name. Otherwise I would just add more items to the registry. It's better than ending up with a dozen toasters!

  NO.

  For all the reasons listed above.
  

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  [Deleted User] member

  

  January 2015

  EAR123 said:

  My guy and I are having a small wedding (45-50 guests) and set up a small registry (40 items) at Crate and Barrel. Between a small bridal shower and guests sending gifts in advance of the wedding, which is 5 weeks away, our wedding registry has been completely fulfilled, via about 25% of the invited guests. We recently combined households and don't truly need to add anything else to the registry, but with 75% of our guests yet to send a gift, do you recommend doing so anyway?

  I know some people will prefer to gift money or a gift card, but others are not comfortable with that and want to give something tangible. While I am of course very grateful to receive gifts, I am wondering if it may better to provide more physical gift options that have been, ahem, "pre-selected" by us and fit our tastes, than not.

  What did/would you do?

  
  

  Does C&B offer completion discounts?  If so, I would wait until two days before your wedding, add the sofa and outdoor patio set you've been eyeing to the registry and purchase them with the giftcards, cash, and discount you get after the wedding.  In other words, no, don't add more items to your registry.  People who still want to give you something will look, notice it's been bought out, and write you a check.

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  EAR123 member

  

  January 2015

  Thanks all. Crate does not do a completion discount.

  We are having a destination wedding too, so folks may be more apt to do a gift card or a check than buy something not on the registry and bring/ship it, perhaps.

  Or not, and we will graciously receive it, I suppose!

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  redoryx member

  

  January 2015

  Knottie7387131 said:

  In addition to a gift registry I made a Honeyfund registry so guests can help us fund our honeymoon (which we won't be having right away cause we'll be broke after wedding planning). It would be cash gifts but at least your guests would know where the cash is going. (They print out little gift certificates saying they are funding your food, your hotel stay, whatever.) If you truly don't need any more physical stuff then you could also ask for donations to a charity in your name. Otherwise I would just add more items to the registry. It's better than ending up with a dozen toasters!

  No. it is not the job of your guests to subsidize your honeymoon. If you wanted one, you should have built it into your overall wedding budget.
  

  

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  vmj23 member

  

  January 2015

  EAR123 said:

  Thanks all. Crate does not do a completion discount.

  We are having a destination wedding too, so folks may be more apt to do a gift card or a check than buy something not on the registry and bring/ship it, perhaps.

  Or not, and we will graciously receive it, I suppose!

  I registered at Crate & Barrel and did get a 10% of discount on the remaining items from my registry for i believe up to 6 months after the wedding.   

  
  

  Unless there is stuff you really want to add, i'd just leave it and let people give you cash or gift certificates.   

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  erinlin25 member

  

  January 2015

  If there are things you see and want to add, go for it--but as PP suggested only if it is something you actually WANT and will use.  If people see the registry completed they will most likely give cash or a gift card.  Off registry gifts can still be useful (and are a fun surprise) so not a bad thing to chance it.  We got a really cool wine bottle holder (non-registry) that we LOVE and would have never known about. 
  
  
  

  
  
  
  

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  happybridetobe1987 member

  

  February 2015

  There is no right answer for this, but if I were you I'd think about a couple of things such as: if you registered for say, 6 or 8 place settings, could you add two more so that if the pattern gets discontinued, something breaks, then you're not left with less settings than you need? Are there decorative items you love, such as a certain vase or that kind of thing? These are items you might not *need* per se but would still be useful or beautiful in your home. I say this because I'm one of those people who much prefers to give a tangible gift at a wedding, rather than cash. I will of course gift cash or a gift card if a registry is totally completed, but I think it would be very nice to your guests who like to give a physical gift to give them more options.

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  mlg78 member

  

  February 2015

  I would recommend an additional 1-2 place settings if you registered for that just because it's always nice to have it on hand.  I know we're already down one plate and one bowl from our original 8 a year and a half ago...

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  happybridetobe1987 member

  

  February 2015

  @mlg78 exactly! things break, either by pets, children, or after a few too many glasses of wine

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