My dad is usually the etiquette king, so the fact that he suggested this is throwing me for a loop.
My parents are paying for the wedding, and their friends have volunteered to throw me and my FI an engagement party in a few months. This weekend we started talking about the guest list to the engagement party and my dad suggests inviting some of his professional and church friends that aren't invited to the wedding. He says he wants these people to be able to celebrate our engagement even if they aren't invited to the wedding. I, of course, foresee a lot of awkward questions from guests who received STD's and guests who didn't. (We're sending them out next month for our September wedding and the engagement party is slated for May.) Besides appealing to the STD thing, which I've already done (he says "they can wait" for the people invited to both the engagement party and wedding because those people are "local"), what can I tell him to keep the party from being an etiquette disaster?
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