Bridal Shower Suggestions

Re: Bridal Shower Suggestions

• aliwis000 member

  

  March 2015 edited March 2015

  I think the advice here is that you do not have anything to really worry about. Since showers are a gift giving event, and you never host your own gift giving event you have no say in the where the potential shower is.
  
  IF someone does offer to host a shower for you it will be pretty much on their terms as far as what state/city. The only input you really have is the guest list, which would be the number of people the host says you can invite (read:the number they can afford) and making sure those people also appear on the wedding invite list. You cannot invite people to a pre-wedding event without inviting them to the wedding.
  
  Now if the host wants to have the shower somewhere you cannot afford to travel to you can simply decline the offer.
  
  Other than that it is hands off. If none of your family/friends offer to host a shower than you simply do not have one. Asking or pushing someone to host one for you is also rude.
  
  I hope this helps!!!
  

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• Dreamergirl8812 member

  

  March 2015

  mkcerullo said:

  Hello! I am getting married in Maine (where I grew up) in August but have been living in DC for the last 10 + years. Most family is still in New England, but most friends are in DC or scattered all over the country. Looking at a potential bridal shower guest list and it's about split between the two locations. Any suggestions on what to do here? Perhaps have a family one in Maine (then I have to travel home) and a separate couples/friends one in DC? We are paying for our own wedding and I'll honestly do most of the legwork on my shower as I'm not one to ask for much from family and friends. Just looking for suggestions on what others have done in similar situations. Thank you!

  What PP said. I know it can seem counterintuitive, but it's actually really rude to throw yourself a shower. If some offers to host one, great. If not, you don't need to worry about it.

  
  
  
  

  
  
  
  
  

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• mikenberger member

  

  March 2015

  mkcerullo said:

  Hello! I am getting married in Maine (where I grew up) in August but have been living in DC for the last 10 + years. Most family is still in New England, but most friends are in DC or scattered all over the country. Looking at a potential bridal shower guest list and it's about split between the two locations. Any suggestions on what to do here? Perhaps have a family one in Maine (then I have to travel home) and a separate couples/friends one in DC? We are paying for our own wedding and I'll honestly do most of the legwork on my shower as I'm not one to ask for much from family and friends. Just looking for suggestions on what others have done in similar situations. Thank you!

  Yeah, this is a no brainer. It's poor etiquette to throw your own shower, even under the guise of helping others throw you a shower. You should have minimal input in the throwing of your bridal shower and bachelorette.
  

  
  

  
  

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• manateehugger member

  

  March 2015

  If a relative wants to host a shower for you in Maine, great! If a friend wants to host one for you in DC, double great! But no-go on hosting your own. "Hey everyone, come on over and bring me lots and lots of presents because I'm getting married!" See how bad that sounds?

  

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• AuroraRose41 member

  

  March 2015

  PP's covered it. Don't plan your own shower or do any of the "leg work". But just a head's up, IF someone offers to throw you one in Maine, and you accept, then you are responsible for figuring out how to get the gifts back to DC. That means accepting the fact that you will have to drive there and back with all of them or pay to have them shipped to you. 

  
  

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• flantastic member

  

  March 2015

  mkcerullo said:

  Hello! I am getting married in Maine (where I grew up) in August but have been living in DC for the last 10 + years. Most family is still in New England, but most friends are in DC or scattered all over the country. Looking at a potential bridal shower guest list and it's about split between the two locations. Any suggestions on what to do here? Perhaps have a family one in Maine (then I have to travel home) and a separate couples/friends one in DC? We are paying for our own wedding and I'll honestly do most of the legwork on my shower as I'm not one to ask for much from family and friends. Just looking for suggestions on what others have done in similar situations. Thank you!

  The bolded is good. Keep that attitude. However, since you can't really throw a party where the purpose is to celebrate you and bring you presents, there's no legwork for you to do. If family or friends offer to take it on, you can accept or decline graciously depending on where they want to throw it, and then let them know people from the wedding guest list that they can consider inviting. If they don't, you don't have a shower - plenty of people have been successfully married without one.
  

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• MyNameIsNot member

  

  March 2015

  Don't throw your own shower, and don't ask anyone to do it for you. If someone offers to throw you a shower, they will tell you what city they want to host it in. From there, depending on the number of guests the hosts can accommodate, you'll work out whether to invite people from the other location.

  If you aren't comfortable with someone throwing a shower for you, and that's fine, just decline any offers.

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