So, I'm planning my wedding and in the process I've gone through a lot of changes, one of which is looking closely at my true friends around me. I've been friends with one of my (already asked)bridesmaids Courtney, since the 9th grade and we've always had a good relationship for the most part until recently, when I opened my eyes to how selfish she has been. Since being engaged, I've noticed a change between us and can only pin point some of her actions as being jealous (not these listed included). Courtney has always been that friend who shows up late and fibs about why shes late. She also cheaps out on gifts and always puts her self first, and always makes things about her..
Courtney and I have a mutual friend named Anna, who also has Courtney in her wedding too. Anna recently called me and told me she was upset because Courtney was being unfair to her. She explained that Courtney promised to help with Annas bridal shower way before hand but at the last minute on the day of, decided she couldn't help, but said she would come to the shower with food. Courtney then came an hour late with pimento cheese and chips from her house that were half eaten. She also brought a gift from her house basically too. Courtney stayed on her phone the whole time and went to the bathroom to curl her hair and left so that she could get drunk and post it all over facebook for st pattys day. I find this messed up.
She also RSVPed to Annas baby shower and never showed up. And also ordered her dress two months later than she was supposed to for Annas wedding.none of the other bridesmaids could get their dress until she completed the order!
She has the money to buy all this stuff but chooses to blow it on vacations, clothes, spa days and other frivolous things.
When at my dress fitting,Courtney told my bridesmaids that we should go to Charleston because that's where she likes to go. Not where "I" would like to go.
The reason Im writing all this is because I'm appalled that I have someone in my wedding party like this and Im nervous that shes going to stress me out with all her selfish acts. I asked her a while back when I thought things were good, but I started to notice how selfish she is....( These are just a few instances she has done).
What do I do now??? Just bite my tongue and just deal with whats to come or put a stop to it now and unask her?? Help.