Question on Bridal Showers

Re: Question on Bridal Showers

• southernbelle0915 mod

  

  April 2015

  I always think it's a nice gesture to invite the mothers to bridal showers (no matter which side is throwing it). So I would invite her. If she doesn't want to come because she's uncomfortable, then she will decline. That way, she knows she's invited and can accept or decline.

  
  

  I would not invite his entire extended family. If your mom can afford to host 22 people, wonderful. Then that's how many you should invite. If his side wants to throw you a shower, they can offer to do so.

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• ElcaB member

  

  April 2015

  I would absolutely invite FMIL. She'll decide whether it'd be too uncomfortable herself and can RSVP accordingly. 

  

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• NowIamMrsKlein member

  

  April 2015 edited April 2015

  No matter what, I definitely think you should invite your FMIL, but if your mother cannot host the additional people from your FI's side she is not obligated to. If your FMIL gets questions from her relatives about a shower she can respond to them:

  
  

  "Yes blushingbride is having a bridal shower, however it's being hosted by her mother and for her side of the family" (or something slightly more eloquent then that).

  
  

   If those family members really were hoping to attend a shower for you, perhaps they will put one together for that side of them family. It is not uncommon for some brides to have multiple showers to host the different family circles. Just remember that while you are not obligated to invite them, you cannot ask them to host one. They have to come up with the idea and offer.

  
  

  Some of my FI's aunts were asking if I was having a bridal shower. My mum had graciously offered to host one, so I conferred with her on how many people she was willing to host. Once I had that number from her I came up with a guest list and was able to include FI's side of the family in the one shower, and gave that list to my mum. However if my mum had asked for a smaller party, I simply would have relayed that information to FI's side of them family and left the ball in their court for deciding if they wanted to throw a shower for their side.

  
  

  
  

  

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• minttobemrsb member

  

  April 2015

  Definitely invite her if you have the room for one more. She can decline if she thinks it will be awkward. Otherwise it might be a good opportunity for her to get to know your family, or at least your mom. 

  

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• [Deleted User] member

  

  April 2015 edited April 2015

  My mom is hosting my shower and wanted to extended the invitation to my MIL and my Fi's family. She called up my MIL and invited her to the shower personally.  Then, she told MIL that she could afford to host 10 additional family members/friends of MIL's choice.   My MIL ended up offering to help co-host the shower so that she could invite additional family/friends.  

  
  

  I would definitely invite FMIL.  She might decline, but she might offer to help host too.   You never know until you extend the invitation. 

  
  

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• Maggie0829 member

  

  April 2015

  The FMIL should always be invited to any shower that is planned.  Mothers and BMs are typically the only individuals who are allowed to overlap shower guest lists.

  
  

  And as with any invite, it is not a summons so if your FMIL does not want to attend then she can decline the invite.

  
  

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• AddieCake member

  

  May 2015

  Certainly you should invite her.

  What did you think would happen if you walked up to a group of internet strangers and told them to get shoehorned by their lady doc?~StageManager14

  

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