My fiancé and I have been together for several years, have a baby girl, live together, and have been engaged officially since November. We just this past week decided to get married in July. Fiancé lost his civilian job a few months ago, and we both want to do this without spending thousands.
I have never wanted a huge wedding. He doesn't either, since it's his second wedding and was thinking maybe a totL of 20 people. My fiancé has been married before, and they did a destination wedding in Vegas. We are both dual military, with him in the reserves and me in the National Guard. Now in my state there is a beautiful, century old house on National Guard property that is used for banquets, awards, etc. Since I am in the guard, I would be able to have the venue for free (yay!!). I was thinking of just cake and punch reception, with a short ceremony beforehand. No bridal party, no groomsmen, no dances, no flowers. Just vows at 2pm, and then everyone eats cake, drinks punch and we all go about our merry day.
Well I called the venue and apparently renovations are starting on the house that will last six months. So that's out of the question. Now I'm bummed and just wondering if I really want to do the whole ceremony thing anyways. it will be too hot to get married outside, and we don't want to get married in a church. He doesn't want a big wedding, which we both fear is what it will turn into. I know how things snowball. I don't want to spend copious amounts of time planning either, to be frankly honest. Our family doesn't care what we do.
Is there anyone who said, "to heck with it" and just signed papers at the courthouse? Is there anyone who almost did that but decided against it?