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Do you/your SO watch pornography?

Curious about this, and how y'all feel about whether or not it's "right" (or normal? or a form of cheating? or just a complete non-issue, who cares? etc etc) to watch porn when you're in a relationship.

 

Does you/your SO watch it while you're around?  Only when you're gone?  Watch it together?  Do you/your SO feel weird about it?  Does it affect your intimacy/sex life?  I'm super interested to see what other people think about it in general and how you approach it.


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Re: Do you/your SO watch pornography?

  • I haven't watched it in a while (like a few months), but the last time we watched together.  I think it's a fun thing to watch together, and I don't really care if he watches some solo.  I know he prefers actual sex with me to watching porn or jerking off, but hell, sometimes it's just quicker to get revved up with porn and take care of yourself than it is to do foreplay and all that other stuff with your partner, lol. 
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  • We don't. If our sex life starts getting boring and we need something else we might dabble. But right now we're good as is.

    There is really a "to each their own" type question. Some people get off on it, for others it's "meh". 
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  • I don't watch it, I'm sure he probably does.

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  • DH and I don't watch porn. I would be a little hurt if he did and hid it from me. Our sex life is great and we choose not to participate in watching pornography. 

    Like @southernbelle0915 mentioned, some people like it, others don't. It just doesn't do it for me.

  • I don't consider porn cheating. I have no problem with my H watching it. We both watch porn separately and together. But you have to do what works for you. 
  • I watch it, he watches it, sometimes (although not often) we watch it together. I don't really feel like it affects our sex life at all. If it were, like one of us would rather watch porn than actually have sex with the other person, then it would be a problem we would have to address. Every couple is different though and needs to set their own boundaries on this topic.



  • We used to watch porn together about once a month or every two months.  Then he downloaded some porn that included spitting.  I gagged and almost hurled and had to leave the room.  Spit is gross.  We haven't watched much porn together since.  But we now have cable and occasionally we'll find some soft core porn and we'll watch it and laugh at the facial expressions and pay attention to whether or not the women keep their shoes on during sex.  He gets a little revved up and our sex is great.  So, I like porn, as long as spit isn't involved.
  • Porn separately can be a good tool for each on their own for instances like @adk19 mentioned, where perhaps you're not necessarily interested in the same things/fantasies. Porn can also be a good tool together, to perhaps show more of things you might like to try with him/her. However, if you're uncomfortable about it, it can do more harm than good. If it's something that doesn't bother you, go for it. Together or separately. 

    That being said, I personally think it's great. I honestly can't remember if FI bothers with it anymore. And we've had quite a few date nights where we've found ourselves at the bottom of a bottle of wine and flipping through HBO and Skinemax. 
  • I'm actually not sure if he even watches porn. I think both of us prefer still (nude or mostly so) images to get off. Most of what I've watched is just not at all sexy. The dialogue is terrible; the faked moans are almost worse; the people look almost plastic. When I do rarely watch, it's with the sound off and at least half the time I pick anime over real people.

    Instead of porn, when I need images to help me, I look at nudes, usually women with fairly natural looks or else alternative with punky hairstyles/colors and piercings/tats. Bonus points if I can find pictures of women together that look like they have some real chemistry. I don't like penises in my sexy pictures. With men, it's more the face that draws me: sharp cheekbones, well-groomed facial hair, and eyes/smile that make me swoon.
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  • This is so much a 'To each their own' topic.  

    FI watches porn.  I read erotica instead because porn just makes me laugh.  We have watched porn together.  We do our own thing separately as well.  I don't always want to wait for FI to get home from a comedy show at 1 am if I'm horny but I want some help.  

                                               

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  • My FI used to be an avid porn watcher. We have watched porn together, but typically use it when we're apart. I'm not as big on it as he is, though my tastes are much more particular. I find it interesting to look through his porn and see what he likes.

    I would rather watch porn for my kicks than read dollar bin romance novels, but that's just me.





  • We both watch on occasion, alone, though I prefer erotica over video.  DH said he'd stop actually, cos he didn't feel quite right about it (he felt it might be disrespectful to me), but I told him I don't mind so long as nothing between us changes, so I know he watches on occasion

  • I don't consider porn cheating. I have no problem with my H watching it. We both watch porn separately and together. But you have to do what works for you. 
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