Hey guys! Looking for some advice here. My FI and I have been living together for two years, will be three years when we have our wedding - we both work full time and are living pretty comfortably at the moment, and I feel uncomfortable about asking people for gifts, both via a shower and the wedding itself. Our wedding is going to be pretty moderate and simple, so I don't feel like we need to recoup the cost of anything because we're honestly just excited to throw a really fun party with all our friends and family, and getting gifts out of that seems weird. Honestly, the thoughts I keep having are like, "We have all the things we need right now, and when we need more we just go buy it ourselves - why would getting engaged/married make it anyone elses' responsibility to upgrade our cutlery or buy us a grill?"
My questions are: a) does anyone else feel like this? Every time it comes up it seems like everyone I talk to has no idea what I'm saying. b) How do we indicate that we don't want gifts on the invitations? It's going to be really awkward either way. I know a lot of times people say "no gifts, please" at a function that a lot of people end up just bringing gifts to anyway, and I'd like to avoid that.
IMPORTANT: I honestly, truly pass no judgement whatsoever on people who do want gifts, even if they've been living together for any length of time and don't feel that they need much. I'm just wondering if anyone else feels like I do, and how they're handling it with invitations, etc.
Thanks!