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Wedding Program - Deceased Father of the Bride

BfloGirl32BfloGirl32 member
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I am trying to figure out how to list the parents when my father is deceased but my Mom is not.

Right now I have it as:

Brides Parents
Patricia and the late David XXXX

Grooms Parents
Richard and Anne XXXX

It just seems off that the man is first in the groom's but not in mine. Thoughts or other suggestions would be really appreciated! TIA
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    Jen4948Jen4948 member
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    This is me, but I think living persons need to be listed first, even if it puts the woman in front of the man.


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    peachy13peachy13 member
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    Just my opinion, I also have a deceased father, and I have my program as:

    Mother of the Bride
    Peachy's mom

    Parents of the Groom
    FI's parents

    And then I have a separate section of the program with a little short and sweet blurb about lost loved ones, including my dad. I kept trying different things and this was the way that felt right to me. You will find it. Good luck!
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    CMGragainCMGragain member
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    edited June 2015
    I would not list your Dad with your Mom, as if they were a living couple.  Just list your mother - Mrs. John Doe. (This is the traditional form for a widow, but you can use whatever she prefers.)  Below the list put this:

    In Fond Memory

    The late John Doe
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    thisismynickname2thisismynickname2 member
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    peachy13 said:
    Just my opinion, I also have a deceased father, and I have my program as:

    Mother of the Bride
    Peachy's mom

    Parents of the Groom
    FI's parents

    And then I have a separate section of the program with a little short and sweet blurb about lost loved ones, including my dad. I kept trying different things and this was the way that felt right to me. You will find it. Good luck!
    I think this is the better way to approach things. It's nice when it says something like, "We remember those who are celebrating with us in spirit." It's a bit jarring to see someone deceased in a program that's supposed to be of events happening live. 
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    STARMOON44STARMOON44 member
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    It's a program, not a family tree!
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    marie2785marie2785 member
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    I think the way you have it is fine, or peachy13's suggestion is good. I doubt anyone will really notice the man/woman first issue, esp since it's obvious why it was done this way.

    I would not be jarred by seeing "the late John Doe" in a program at all under the parents. I understand this is not a family tree, but of all the ways to mention your father in the program, this way is pretty innocuous. I think it's up to you on which way you and your family are most comfortable with. Mentioning him up front, or later in the program. 

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    OliveOilsMomOliveOilsMom member
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    FIL was deceased at our wedding and we did our programs just as Peachy described. 
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    Jen4948Jen4948 member
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    peachy13 said:
    Just my opinion, I also have a deceased father, and I have my program as:

    Mother of the Bride
    Peachy's mom

    Parents of the Groom
    FI's parents

    And then I have a separate section of the program with a little short and sweet blurb about lost loved ones, including my dad. I kept trying different things and this was the way that felt right to me. You will find it. Good luck!
    I like this way of doing it.
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