Hello everyone,
I would love to know your feedback about your relationship with your mother-in law since I am having difficulties with mine.
I had dated my fiancee for 10 years and we are finally getting married soon. However, my relationship with his mother is very akward. We are not close but I am always friendly and polite, we see each other in family reunions, birthdays, holidays, etc. My fiance and I visit her everyone now and then and she is very sweet and friendly too. However, sometimes she makes sharp comments about me that leave me speechless and with a blank expression in my face. For instance: yesterday, we went to visit my in-laws and out of nowhere she told me that I am like her small puppy who is very aphatetic and keeps a distance to others. I was in complete shock and instead of getting angry, I felt very sad. I really don't know what I did to my mother-in-law but her sharp and uncall remarks always take me by surprise and I never know how to react to them.
I had never respond angry or mean towards her. On the contrary, I am always nice and very sweet to her. She hardly ever visits and when she does visit with my father-in-law, they are always in a hurry. Her relationship with her other daughter-in-law is beautiful and they are great friends, they talk almost every day about everything, they are very close and it's kind of hard for me to watch them and I am just the third wheel who gets rejected. I am not jealous but it's hard to not get some appreciation from her when I haven't done anything to her. She doubles me in age and she is very sharp and doesn't like the fact that I am more serious and introvert whereas she is a social butterfly. I don't want to damage or hurt my relationship with my soon to be husband. P.S.: I hate confrontation. Please help!