Ok, a little BG here because, it matters. My FH is divorced. He married young, felt it was the next step and feels now that he was pressured into doing what was "right" at the time (no, she wasn't pregnant, her father was a pastor). Things were never great between them, soon after the wedding she began to show signs of mental illness and refused to get any help. After 2 kids, she went into a tailspin. Neglected the kids, was violent towards FH, and spoke of "ending them all". He decided that he had to take action, got a PFA, got her into a hospital, and filed for divorce. It's been a few years since then, he and I reconnected 2 years ago and have been together since. In case you're wondering, his ex has gotten the help she needs and is healthy and doing well now. However, his parents are very nervous about this wedding. His mother in particular has a big fear that the same thing will happen and their family will be in shambles again. This leads me to asking about this song that I like for the mother/son dance.... "Anyway" by Martina McBride. I'll paste the lyrics below, but it briefly mentions lost love/ended relationship. At first I thought, "oh no big deal, the point is that nothing is guaranteed but you do it anyway" but now I'm not sure that given I know this fear.. if she listens to all of the lyrics is it tasteful to use it anway? In a way, I feel it's relevant but I don't know if its bad luck or even just meh taste to dance to a song that mentions this at a wedding?
You can spend your whole life building
Something from nothin'
One storm can come and blow it all away
Build it anyway
You can chase a dream that seems so out of reach
And you know it might not ever come your way
Dream it anyway
God is great, but sometimes life ain't good
When I pray it doesn't always turn out like I think it should
But I do it anyway
I do it anyway
This world's gone crazy and it's hard to believe
That tomorrow will be better than today
Believe it anyway
You can love someone with all your heart
For all the right reasons
In a moment they can choose to walk away
Love 'em anyway
God is great, but sometimes life ain't good
When I pray it doesn't always turn out like I think it should
But I do it anyway
Yeah, I do it anyway
You can pour your soul out singing a song you believe in
That tomorrow they'll forget you ever sang
Sing it anyway
Yeah, sing it anyway
I sing, I dream
I love
Anyway