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Mother's name on the invitation

Knottie7975247 Knottie7975247 member
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Hello!

We are working on the language for our invitations and have hit a rough spot. Our invitation wording is going to be more traditional, however both parents are hosting. My FH's parents are divorced so their names will be listed separately. My parents are still together but my mom does not like that fact that if we go with the most traditional option (Mr. and Mrs. John Smith) then her first name will not be on the invitation. I'm not sure what is the appropriate way to list their names separately so that it does not look like they are divorced or sound funny. What are some other options?

Mr. John and Mrs. Jane Smith
Mrs. Jane and Mr. John Smith
Mr. and Mrs. John and Jane Smith

Any help would be great!
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Re: Mother's name on the invitation

  • Jen4948Jen4948 member
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    edited July 2015

    I'd just leave off titles and use "John and Jane Smith."  It's not traditional, but does allow for all the first names without suggesting that your parents aren't together.

    If you really want to be traditional, though, your mother will have to accept that she is "Mrs. John Smith" under traditional wording.  This is of course why many women don't like traditional naming customs.  But there are no wording police who will arrest you for not using them.

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  • Knottie7975247 Knottie7975247 member
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    That's a good option too. I would like it to be more traditional/formal but that's a good compromise. Thanks!
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  • MairePoppyMairePoppy mod
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    You should ask each parent how they'd like to be listed. I prefer no title for my name

    Maire and James Poppy or James and Maire Poppy

     (I have never called myself Mrs. James Poppy)

                       
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  • CMGragainCMGragain member
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    edited July 2015
    The alternate traditional wording is this:

    Ms. Jane Bridesparent and Mr. John Bridesparent
    Ms. Susan Groomsparent
    Mr. and Mrs. George Groomsparent
    request the pleasure of your company
    at the marriage of
    Bride's Full Name
    and
    Groom's Full Name
    Day, date
    time o'clock
    Venue
    Address
    City, State

    or, non-traditionally

    Together with their parents
    Bride's Full Name
    and
    Groom's Full Name
    request the pleasure of your company
    as they are united in marriage
    (etc.)

    The title "Mrs. Jane Bridesparent" does suggest that she is divorced
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