My parents have generously offered to pay for our wedding and RD. We are having a lot of OOT guests and I know my parents are trying to keep costs down where possible. So when talking about numbers for the RD I said I count 23 guests who are involved in the actual ceremony, and obviously need to be at the RD, and it was up to them if we want to keep the RD just to those 23 guests or extend the invitation to other OOT guests.
My parents suggestion was they will pay for the 23 guests involved in the ceremony (this is including dates/spouses of groomsmen, bridesmaids, etc) and the OOT guests on my side, and leave it up to FIs family to decide to invite their side's OOT guests. Then FI's parents would either pay for their OOT guests or those guests pay for themselves. FI's family has not offered to contribute financially.
This feels so wrong to me but wanted to get some input. I hate the idea that my OOT guests will be there and be hosted while FI's will either not be there or not be equally hosted....or we end up having to basically ask/force FI's family to chip in when they haven't offered.