I know this question has been asked on here before but I'm still a bit unsure as to what to do...
I have an older sister that I am really not close with at all (we never have been close and we don't have much in common), she has a hard time being happy for other people and she did not care to plan her own wedding a few years ago and just told our Mother to do whatever. Well now that I'm engaged and planning a wedding she really wants to help and be included, which I find odd since she didn't want to plan her own wedding.
I also have a best friend that has always been like a sister to me. She knows way more about me than my actual sister, and I am so much closer to my friend. She and I love planning parties/weddings/events and we had a blast when we planned her wedding. Her husband and my FI are even good friends, and there's never any drama between us.
So, when my Mother asked me about who my Maid of Honor, I told her I planned on it being my friend and my sister being my Matron of Honor. Well my Mother did not like that idea at all and suggested I either do two Maid's of Honor or just not have one at all. She kept insisting that since my sister and I are blood related, she should be included under the Maid of Honor title. Keep in mind, my Mother is the one paying for a majority of my wedding, so that's why what she had to say mattered to me.
I don't know what to do! I don't want to hurt my sister's feelings (I'm 100% sure that she will either say something to me or my Mother about it and start an argument), but my friend is more like a sister to me than my actual blood related sister. I don't want conflict but (I know I'm about to sound like bridezilla) but this day is about my FI and myself, not about how my sister feels. Any suggestions are welcome!!! Thanks in advance!!