Dear Prudence,
I was one of the 32 million people who had their data breached by the Ashley Madison hack. The problem? I am innocent of any wrongdoing—no, really. About four years ago, I saw a late-night ad about Ashley Madison. I was single, bored, and curious about this new cultural brazenness. I surfed the site for an hour or two, and didn’t contact anyone. After feeling a little creeped out, I signed off and that was that. I have been happily married for the past two years. This morning I got an email notification from a service that informs me if my data has been breached. The email was about the Ashley Madison hack. I feel I should let my wife know that my data was on there, but I also know that my explanation, while true, is not verifiable—there was nothing to indicate the date of my use. I don’t want to needlessly upset her. But I also don’t want this information getting to her, no matter how unlikely, then having to try and explain myself. What should I do?