I'm totally confused on Save the Dates. I thought I was supposed to send
one to everyone on the wedding list, but as I read more, I'm finding
that I should only send them to VIPs and those who have to travel (which
is a pretty big group). It seems odd to only send them to some people?
For instance, we have some friends who need to travel and in the same
group, we have friends who don't, so I'd be sending Save the Dates to
half of the group... won't people get snarky and wonder if they're
invited?
Another issue- my mother in law can't make up her mind
about who she wants to invite. In fairness, she has a large family and
few close friends and she has some friends shes on the fence about
inviting. Is it ok to not send those people Save the Dates? There's not
an issue of them finding out about the wedding and being offended, as
she's not in regular contact with them or anyone else who is attending.
Also, if I've heard that a family member can't come, do you still send a Save the Date? An invite? They are 100 percent out due to one person graduating that day.