From the responses I’ve been reading, I see that people have
strong opinions about tiered receptions favoring both sides of the issue.
We’re getting married and having our reception in the same
building. Guest will only have to climb stairs to the ballroom and grab a drink.
The cocktails, appetizers and music will begin as soon as the ceremony ends so
there is a seamless transition.
We’re having a short ceremony somewhere around 30-45
minutes. The room we’re having the ceremony
in can hold a maximum of 100 guests, there is no wiggle room on that number.
My fiancé’s family is very large, and so between his side of
the family and close friends, we easily cap the 100 we’re allotted for the
ceremony.
The ballroom where the reception will take place is much
larger. There are people who we can’t fit onto the 100 guest ceremony list that
we’d like to invite to be part of this. We don’t expect gifts from those
people, only for them to have a great time with good food, music and an open
bar.
The people we’ve been considering inviting to just the
reception are mostly work friends and friends of my fiancé who are guys that
really would prefer to skip the ceremony part if given the choice.
I have people telling me it’s not a big deal and I can do
whatever I want. I have people telling me it’s rude and people telling me they’d
prefer to be invited to just a reception….in the land of etiquette are there absolutes
of RIGHT and WRONG in this situation?