Dear Prudie,
I have been dating a wonderful guy for several years. He is a great partner, handsome, hard-working, and he cares a great deal about making me happy. My parents love him, too. I recently learned that his small business is paying several employees under the table, at the employees’ request. This has left me feeling confused and upset. I believed that he was a pretty ethical person and, in his mind, he is doing a favor to his employees. In my mind, he is risking the company that he has worked so hard to build. Help!