Wanna meet the baby? Clean our shit.

[Deleted User] · November 2015

Thought you guys would appreciate this note that I just read from a former friend on Facebook. Gross gross gross. Can't make this shit up.

AddieCake · November 2015

I've heard of people organizing amongst themselves to do this for new parents, but for them to orchestrate it? Nope.

randomslove · November 2015

Nope. My rule will be if you want to come and see our baby, you and anyone you bring must be good on vaccines (minus a few immuno-compromised individuals) until our child is old enough to get his/her own. I'm actually looking into what boosters I need now, so when we start trying, I will be up-to-date.

I don't understand why anyone would insist on a guest coming over to clean and being paid by... seeing a new member of the family. If someone wants to help, that's really nice of them. However, I would never ask that of a guest.

lyndausvi · November 2015

Yeah, I would not be seeing that newborn until it was a year old with those "rules".

ericasm0703 · November 2015

So in order to meet your new baby, I have to do your household chores that I don't even particularly like doing at my own house? Yeah, no thanks. Maybe I'll come to the first birthday party, provided I don't get a to-do list if I attend that.

AddieCake · November 2015

I'm not likely to be interested enough in seeing your (general) kid to be motivated to do that shit for you.

glasgowtolondon · November 2015

Why are some people so entitled? Honestly, I am constantly impressed by how gross people can act with apparently no shame!

thefanciestbeckler · November 2015

Some of my friends at church organize meal trains, etc. for people when they have babies, but to organize something like this for yourself?? Just gross.

drunkenwitch · November 2015

Wow. I fucking just can't. I have dropped off meals many times for friends that just had a baby. I've even done household chores or offered to sit with the baby for awhile so new mom can take shower or catch a short nap. One little tiny difference, I OFFERED! and all my friends thanked me for THE OFFER.

ETA, every time I see an email go around asking for volunteers to drop off a meal for new parents or someone who just had surgery, it's always organized by someone else, never the recipient.

[Deleted User] · November 2015

ericasm0703 said:
So in order to meet your new baby, I have to do your household chores that I don't even particularly like doing at my own house? Yeah, no thanks. Maybe I'll come to the first birthday party, provided I don't get a to-do list if I attend that.

And not only do I dislike doing these chores, I don't have TIME to do these chores at my own house. If I have time to even come say hi and meet your baby, you're lucky! Also, this grabby attitude implies that peoples' baby shower gifts weren't enough of a gift for these people... They need to update their registry and ask for MORE!!! So gross.

JaniV123 · November 2015

wow, there are no words other than gross...

kimmiinthemitten · November 2015

What's worse, is how many people will enable this behavior by complying. This is just a gross way to treat people.

banana468 · November 2015

Look, I get that there are plenty of people who don't get that a new mom isn't a hostess and you don't just show up and ask her to whip up lunch and tea. But this push back is too much.

emmaaa · November 2015

Wow. Did your friend post as a joke? I wouldn't go over there ever.

OliveOilsMom · November 2015

Sign me up to clean your breast pump! (Said no one ever!)

banana468 · November 2015

OliveOilsMom said:

Sign me up to clean your breast pump! (Said no one ever!)

Seriously! And that stuff goes in the dishwasher. All the baby stuff goes in the dishwasher. And if you don't have one - buy one!

I'm all for saying that a person should offer to help a new parent when visiting but man, that list makes me want to shake the parents.

drunkenwitch · November 2015

20 bucks these people will be the type to show up announced at a friend's home, with the kid in tow, and start demanding said friend child proof their home and demand they provide snacks and entertainment for said child.

MissKittyDanger · November 2015

drunkenwitch said:

Wow. I fucking just can't. I have dropped off meals many times for friends that just had a baby. I've even done household chores or offered to sit with the baby for awhile so new mom can take shower or catch a short nap. One little tiny difference, I OFFERED! and all my friends thanked me for THE OFFER. ETA, every time I see an email go around asking for volunteers to drop off a meal for new parents or someone who just had surgery, it's always organized by someone else, never the recipient.

I've done the same! I would never expect people to do it. I know I'd pass off my child to mine or H's family if they stopped over to quickly shower, but I would never expect them to do any cleaning for me {although I know they would ....}
But to expect it?
Also like PP's have said, just be sure you're not sick and up-to-date on vaccines for health concerns!

julieanne912 · November 2015

drunkenwitch said:

20 bucks these people will be the type to show up announced at a friend's home, with the kid in tow, and start demanding said friend child proof their home and demand they provide snacks and entertainment for said child.

Have you met my H's dad's GF? Cause she did that with her grandkids at our housewarming party. There were 40+ adults there, and like 6 kids. She told me later after some of the people had left that I should have set up a play area with games in our garage for the kids, and mentioned our house wasn't really kid friendly. Well no shit it's not kid friendly, we don't have kids.

Never mind the other kids at the party seemed to amuse themselves just fine by playing with our dogs and running around on our acre of property.

SP29 · December 2015

Bleck!

I agree- you want me to clean your house when I don't have time to clean my own? And sterilize your breast pump? Eww.

I will happily cuddle and coo over your baby while you take a shower, or you know, clean your own house.

I have definitely heard of people bringing meals and helping around the house, but that is usually close family and friends who offer, not anyone who comes to visit. I get that a new parents is not going to be the hostess with the mostest- nor would I expect them to, but I would never ask someone to come over to my house and cook or clean for me!

huskypuppy14 · December 2015

I think this is one of those things where you never ask as new parent, but you are a good friend if you offer. It also depends who it is. If you are a good enough friend or family to come see the baby right after he or she is born, you should be good enough friend or family to do the dishes or bring over dinner.

When I have visited friends who just had baby, if it's dinner time I offer to bring food over. One time my friend's husband made dinner, so I loaded the dishwasher for them. Also, if it's family and they want to see the baby, I have no problem saying, here's the baby, i'm taking a nap.

Putting this list on facebook is gross though, absolutely.

monkeysip · December 2015

I am annoyed by people that come over in the first few days of a baby's life, when the parents are exhausted and delirious, and the mom is often in serious physical pain, and all they want to do is get a little bit of baby cuddle in and leave. I think people really should offer to do something (like bring a sandwich for mom or take a bag of trash out). But I would never ever make a list like that, basically demanding help. What a way to make sure no one ever helps you...

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