Hello everyone,
I am having trouble with my future sister in law.
Challenge 1:
She has 3 kids under 6 who are not well behaved. The youngest one is having a birthday on our wedding day. We cannot change the date. We have decided not to have children at our wedding, which is also taking place at my fiance and her childhood home. She has decided that this is a personal attack on her and we are trying to keep her from her children. She is in the wedding party and will have a reading during the ceremony. This challenge caused a bit of a meltdown between my fiance and I because it led to talk of changing the venue. She says if her children cannot attend the wedding, which is at their bed time, then she will skip the rehearsal and only come into town the day of the wedding. This is hurtful to my fiance but he will not talk with her about it.
Challenge 2:
We have 3 wedding colors, he picked one, I picked one and the other is more for the decor. She has decided she does not want to wear his color and will wear mine. As of now I told her she has to wear his color, and I am bringing the wedding planner with me during her dress fitting to help deal with her.
I feel this is the one day in my entire life when I get to say how things go for me. I am trying my best not to create a life long enemy, but I feel like it's becoming a battle of wills.
Please help, how do I navigate this delicately without further alienating her?