I am in need of some serious unbiased perspective on a
situation I am having with planning my wedding. I am going to keep the details
as short and to the point as possible. My finace and I decided initially we
wanted to have a destination wedding. My fiancé knew that none of his siblings
would be attending but he was ok with that as long as his parents come. My
parents are paying for everything and we really don’t have a budget but I don’t
want things to get out of hand with the spending, so Mexico was the perfect
option….until we told my finace’s parents about the plan. His father
immediately said they would not be going anywhere that required them to fly. So
basically, if you have the wedding in Mexico we aren’t coming…end of story. My fiancé
and I were upset because we want them to be there. So we then decided to have
the wedding in Florida which would give everyone about a 10 hour drive to make
it. I will add this, the Florida wedding would be double, if not triple, what
it would be for us to have it in Mexico but my parents were ok with that. When
we gave this news to his parents his mother was very supportive and excited but
his father immediately became negative and said that none of my finace’s
siblings would be able to come because they couldn’t afford it(even though they
have over a year to save up for it). After thinking about it, I came to the
conclusion that there is no way I am going to allow my parent’s to pay that
much more money for us to accommodate his family and his dad continue to be so
rude and negative. So here we are now… I am wanting to go back to the original
plan and have the wedding in Mexico, his parents have over a year to make up
their mind about coming but at the end of the day this was our favorite idea
and I think they should be supportive of that. My biggest concern is my future
in laws resenting me and my fiancé resenting me. But at this point I am
beginning to resent them. What should my next move be?