My wedding is 30th September this year and I found the right stationer last month (January). The cards and menus looked amazing, so I didn't think much about the fact that she was a little patronising when I spoke to her.
I sent Save the Dates before Christmas so just need day and evening invitations as well as everything for the actual day.
Based on other discussions on here and other sites, I shouldn't send the invites out until early May and the RSVP deadline should be end of June at the earliest. The stationer wants to have a deadline of end of April, which seems far too early to expect my guests to plan for. She's pushing to get the final wording and deadline sorted by end of February which meant I had to sort out a wedding website far earlier than I expected to.
At first, it seemed like she just wanted confirmation that I was definitely hiring her so she could get my wedding date into her calendar so I paid the deposit plus the expected amount for the invites (final day payment is only due just before). This hasn't made her back off at all.
How do I politely but very very firmly tell her that the dates she's suggesting just don't work?