Wedding Date Conundrum

Re: Wedding Date Conundrum

• ShesSoCold mod

  

  March 2016

  manicpixidream said:

  So I have a wedding date conundrum. I have two different Holy Days to take into account when planning my wedding on my side of the guest list (my fiancé doesn't have many religious guests, thankfully). Part of my guest list observes the Sabbath as sundown Friday to sundown Saturday (Seventh-Day Adventist) while the other part observes Sunday. And of those that observe Sunday, a good portion work at a church that has services both Saturday night and Sunday morning. Everywhere I look is a land mine. The good portion is that most of the Saturday people live in my city while the Sunday people live in different city, thus Sunday afternoon is an option if the Sunday people can leave after Saturday service and skip the Sunday services. The Sunday people also get Monday off, so even a Sunday afternoon/evening wedding COULD work, theoretically if my fiancé's half of the guest list doesn't complicate things any more.... 
  Any advice if my plan falls through?

  
  Are you having a religious ceremony? Your first thing should be to check with the church to see what times and days they are available for the ceremony.

  
  

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• Maggie0829 member

  

  March 2016

  Elope.

  
  

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• thisismynickname2 member

  

  March 2016

  I second ShesSoCold. You mention the Adventists, but you don't mention the religion that observes Sundays. 
  For example, if you are having a Catholic wedding, I'd happily attend a wedding mass on a Sunday in lieu of regular Sunday morning (or Saturday evening) services.
  Sunday afternoon is sounding like your better bet for scheduling. At the end of the day, an invitation is not a subpoena, so do what's best for you, your FI, and your collective VIPs. 

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• ernursej member

  

  March 2016

  I personally hate weddings that fall on observed holiday weekends (i.e. long weekends) but perhaps for your crowd ... a holiday Monday brunch or holiday Monday afternoon cake and punch reception would work. Won't conflict with any religious group.

  I agree with PPs that you need to look to your VIPs as those would be the most important to invite and find out a bit more about those that observe Sunday as a religious time.

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• emmy72 member

  

  March 2016

  All of the advice here is sound. It sounds like Sunday is your best bet. You can't please everyone.

  If you find yourself getting too stressed over this, remember: you get ONE wedding day. ONE. You are only asking for your attendees to work ONE weekend/day out of the whole year around your schedule. I am sure your family and close friends will understand your situation, even if it means they need to break routine for a weekend. They will understand that you're trying your best to find a day/time that works for everyone. And if they don't, gently explain your situation.

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