Hello Knotties! I have a question about whether it's acceptable to say something in this situation, and if so, how:
My BIL is getting married in a few months. I changed my last name to DH's, but the wedding correspondence (save the dates, shower, etc.) has all been coming in addressed to DH and to me with my old last name. While I understand that they wouldn't want to risk offending me by assuming that I'd changed my name, as many women choose not to, I was also surprised that they wouldn't have checked with me or DH about my name before addressing envelopes. (Or, that BIL wouldn't just check Facebook and see that my last name has been changed.)
It's such a tiny detail, and I feel petty for being even a little bit bothered by it, but at the same time, that's my name now and I'd like to be addressed properly. Is it acceptable to say something in this situation, by contacting BIL or his FI directly--and if so, how does one go about this politely? Is an email acceptable for this type of thing? (We have a good relationship with BIL and his FI, and have a good time during the rare chances we have to all get together, but we also live thousands of miles away from them, which prevents my mentioning something more casually in person.) Or, is this one of those things that you just let go?
Thanks in advance for any thoughts or experiences you can share. Also, I miss all you regulars and your wit and wisdom! Since my wedding a year and a half ago, I've been wrapped up in finishing my graduate program, moving closer to DH's family, and being fortunate enough to score a full-time job in my field that I enjoy. Hope you're all doing well