Would it be tacky to have an open church ceremony and small reception at the church with some finger foods and punch and have a separate private reception later in the day for close family and friends? I do not want to be rude and I want to provide guests time to mingle with us after the reception, but because of budget restrictions I would not be able to invite all guests to a reception with food and dancing. I have contemplated a private ceremony and reception with just close family and friends, but it is hard because I am marrying a pastor and I do not want to cause problems with his congregation (I also am a member and attend church there as well). This adds another 80 people.