Gifts Without Names

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  ILoveBeachMusic member

  

  July 2016

  I would start by contacting the stores from where the gifts were bought, if you can. If they were bought on off your registry, the store should have some kind of record. You could also have people with whom you are close to make subtle inquiries. For example, if one of the people who didn't give you a gift is an aunt maybe your Mom could say (if talking about the wedding) something along the lines of "Miss Sarah has a couple of gifts that didn't include a card. She really hopes she can figure out who gave them to them so she can write a thank you note." You get the idea.

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  ksulaski member

  

  July 2016

  Definitely try to reach out to the store if they were bought from your registry. My first wedding gift I received came from Bed Bath and Beyond without a packing slip. I called their customer service line and they were able to say who it was from and the message from the relative. I agree with PP's suggestion to drop subtle hints if it might be a close family member. Good luck!

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  misssarahx23 member

  

  July 2016

  Thanks for the suggestions.  Unfortunately, only 1 is actually from our registries now that I think about it (go figure, it's never easy!).
  
  Is it more appropriate for our parents to ask family members than the husband and I?

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  cowgirl8238 member

  

  July 2016

  misssarahx23 said:

  Thanks for the suggestions.  Unfortunately, only 1 is actually from our registries now that I think about it (go figure, it's never easy!).
  
  Is it more appropriate for our parents to ask family members than the husband and I?

  
  The hard part here is trying to figure out who sent them to be polite without making it sound like you are outright asking for a gift.  While some people will surely understand the confusion some may mistake the inquiry as you bullying them into it in a passive aggressive way.  I think that is why generally it is suggested to have some other family members do the inquiring.

  If you do see these people, you could mention that you got some lovely gifts without a card, and maybe they will remember they forgot to sign one or something.  Thankfully we didn't have this problem as us NY folks only give envelopes with cash at the wedding, and those are almost always signed.

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  STARMOON44 member

  

  July 2016

  I wouldn't bring this up to people who didn't send a gift. No card or name? No thank you. Oh well. 

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  DrillSergeantCat member

  

  July 2016

  STARMOON44 said:

  I wouldn't bring this up to people who didn't send a gift. No card or name? No thank you. Oh well. 

  You'd just wait to see if the gift giver called to be sure they got the gift? That's not a bad idea.

  

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  STARMOON44 member

  

  July 2016

  DrillSergeantCat said:

  STARMOON44 said:

  I wouldn't bring this up to people who didn't send a gift. No card or name? No thank you. Oh well. 

  You'd just wait to see if the gift giver called to be sure they got the gift? That's not a bad idea.

  Yeah. At most I spread the word to my mom/aunt/family gossip that I feel bad I can't send a thank you for xyz because there was no card. I just think actually mentioning it to every guest who didn't send a gift, even obliquely, is too much. 

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  misssarahx23 member

  

  July 2016

  cowgirl8238 said:

  misssarahx23 said:

  Thanks for the suggestions.  Unfortunately, only 1 is actually from our registries now that I think about it (go figure, it's never easy!).
  
  Is it more appropriate for our parents to ask family members than the husband and I?

  
  The hard part here is trying to figure out who sent them to be polite without making it sound like you are outright asking for a gift.  While some people will surely understand the confusion some may mistake the inquiry as you bullying them into it in a passive aggressive way.  I think that is why generally it is suggested to have some other family members do the inquiring.

  If you do see these people, you could mention that you got some lovely gifts without a card, and maybe they will remember they forgot to sign one or something.  Thankfully we didn't have this problem as us NY folks only give envelopes with cash at the wedding, and those are almost always signed.

  This is exactly why I asked.  Wording is always tricky.  I'm debating if simply explaining the situation that we have multiple gifts without names and that I want to be able to thank the right person for them is enough to not make it sound like I'm asking/nudging the person to give a gift.
  
  Etiquette says guests do have within a year to send gifts to newlyweds right?

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  LtPowers member

  

  July 2016 edited July 2016

  misssarahx23 said:
  
  Etiquette says guests do have within a year to send gifts to newlyweds right?

  
  Technically, though it's kind of weird. And once you get close to a year it kind of becomes an anniversary gift.

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  MuppetOverlord member

  

  July 2016

  You got some good ideas above. A few others:
  
  Talk about it with people, especially grandmothers or whoever the hub of the families are. My grandmother pretty much knows everything about anything going on in the family at all times through her sibling network. She gets info fast. 
  
  Last year, a friend of mine posted a photo on facebook of the item appearing well-loved, and in use asking who they can thank. 
  
  
  

  
  
  You'll never be subject to a cash bar, gap, potluck wedding, or b-list if you marry a Muppet Overlord.

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