I was going to elope with my fiance since we cant afford to pay for a wedding/ reception party and then my parents stepped in offered to pay for a wedding... we wanted something small and under 100 people but my parents wanted something big and lavish of at least 200-300.. ironically, they couldn't stick within the budget they set since they kept wanting to add more and more people. my mother ordered the save the dates and ordered twice as many save the dates and handed them out to random people telling me afterwards that they were also a "wedding announcement" as well. once we finally got everything booked, my mother then continually threatened not to pay the vendors and called them to have the contracts rewritten into my name. needless to say, I wasn't going to sign contracts i couldn't pay so she ended up cancelling the wedding. She then blamed my fiance and I by telling everyone that we cancelled it and really didn't want a wedding after all and that my fiance and i are being disrespectful to the family by not including anyone. Now my fiance and I are left dealing with the aftermath.. and my mother trying to turn the entire family against us. ( I also recently found out she has NPD, so now her actions are making a lot more sense)