I don't tend to post in online forums often, but I am so frustrated with this person that I just had to vent. (Hi everyone!)
I love lurking on forums and learning things about weddings. I spend most of my time on the wedding planning subreddit because I had been a reddit member for years before I was engaged. I definitely don't agree with all the opinions on the subreddit, and I'm glad that I've also learned a lot about etiquette from The Knot (which I admit I was totally ignorant of!!).
I'm happy to just upvote/like/heart the advice that follows etiquette, and, when I do, I'll start recognizing different usernames that I see a lot.
One user in particular, I was happy to see usually had great advice on etiquette, but suddenly she started taking things to the extreme.
For example, she has harshly scolded users saying the following things are now against etiquette:
-cake and punch ceremony at a non-meal time because the event would only last 3 to 4 hours which is apparently "not long enough to be a good host"
-Placing any (and yes, I mean ANY) restrictions on bridesmaid attire, including just asking them to wear a color!
-Saying 5 in the evening rather than 5 in the afternoon (which I understand 5 in the afternoon is the traditional way to write it, but how is it impolite??)
-Using the word Godwin in your wedding hashtag even if it is your future last name because of "Godwin's Law" (silly internet theory that the longer a conversation goes on, the more likely someone will be compared to Hitler)
This is the kicker though. SHE'S HAVING A STANDING CEREMONY. I can understand taking a hard line on etiquette but AT LEAST FOLLOW THE MOST BASIC RULES YOURSELF. When she was told it was rude, she said something like "it's no big deal for people to stand for 10 minutes." Seriously? Hopefully, none of her guests have disabilities they're uncomfortable sharing.
AND HOW IS IT NOT A BIG DEAL TO MAKE YOUR GUESTS UNCOMFORTABLE BUT IT'S A BIG DEAL TO SAY 5 IN THE EVENING??
I'm trying not to start drama, but I just vent to someone before I explode in weddit land. Also, if I'm wrong about any of this, please let me know!!! Still learning