Hey folks -- just got engaged (yes!) and my fiancé and I are looking at venues. We have an idea of what our budget will be if it's just the two of us paying for it, which we're completely fine with and expect. We don't know if either of our sets of parents are wanting to help us with any expenses or not.
In other words, if it's just the two of us paying for our wedding, we can afford X, Y, and Z venues, but if one or both of our parents want to contribute, we can afford A, B, and C venues, too. So just for purposes of nailing down a venue it'd be great to know if our respective parents want to chip in or not.
Is it appropriate or is it rude to just call my parents and say -- hey, totally don't expect you to give me anything at all, but strictly for venue-reserving purposes, it'd be great to know if you were planning on contributing? Or should I just wait til somebody offers/brings it up? I really just don't want to pull a jerk move, especially since I'm not expecting anything from anybody and I don't want to make it seem as if I feel entitled to their money.
Thanks for any guidance, and if there's a more appropriate place to post this question please let me know!