Battle of the Brides
I am hoping someone can give me insight on an issue I am having with my wedding planning. I got engaged in September - so not too long ago. However, a friend of mine got engaged in July - so a couple months before me. I would consider her a friend but not someone I am super close to and would really call just for a chat or something. This friend of mine has looked at many venues so far but hasn't made a final choice on which one she wants. My fiancé and I found a venue the other day that we loved, but the only date was December 9th and my friend was thinking about having hers December 23rd (although she never signed a contract or made her final decision). I told my friend the date I was thinking and she said she was fine with it as long as I am back from my honey moon in time for her wedding. However, the next day I got a couple weird texts from the friend who is engaged and another friend in our group trying to convince me not to do a December wedding. Another friend of my randomly texted me and said "I don't think you should have a December wedding. All the trees will be dead. Is that what you really want in your pictures?" I put two and two together and realized that they were trying to change my mind because my friend who got engaged before me doesn't want our weddings two weeks apart (although she said she was fine with it the night before). I turned out telling my friend she could have her December wedding (even though the only date the venue my fiancé and I fell in love with was in December) and that I would find another date for mine and just have to pick another venue. I am kind of upset because I feel as though no matter what date I choose she will be mad and think that my date is too close to hers. And if I can't have mine in December I would have to have it before because I want to get married in 2017. I also feel like I was bullied out of the venue I really wanted too. I don't want to sound selfish but this is a really crappy situation. And I feel as though even though I already told her I'd change my month, she will still be mad if the months are close. She told me she wants her "own wedding month" and doesn't want to share the month with anyone else. Even though I gave up my dream venue - if I choose another month before December - I'm worried that because all of my friends seem to agree with her, I will end up losing all of my friends if I plan a 2017 wedding. Help! What should I do?