My husband and I just got married and would like to start a family. He is in the process of interviewing for med schools, and will hopefully (if accepted) start school in August 2017. He applied to over 20 school across the country so we could basically end up anywhere. I've talked with the doctors we know and the advice we've received is to have kids while he is in medical school, because residency is so time-demanding. My husband agrees. I would be 33 if I got pregnant right now this second, so the age-factor is part of it. I know you can have kids well into your 40s but it is still something to consider. There is also the financial aspect- having a kid on one income, possibly in a new city...it's a lot to think about. I own a business so it would be difficult take a lot of time off. My business is very "up and down" so financially-speaking it varies. I always hear "there is never a right time" which I TOTALLY get but it does all become overwhelming very quickly. I've been very open with my husband, and he is very understanding of my concerns, but none-the-less gung ho about having kids ASAP. I really love him for that, but I'm also thinking, easier said than done my dear... I want to have a family, but I don't want to take a nose dive into motherhood without thinking it through and end up super over-whelmed, thinking to myself "I wish I would have..."-insert wise thoughts here...I keep telling myself, "Where there is a will there is a way!", which then battles my type-A thoughts of "Think realistically about your decisions". I guess I don't know what a "realistic" expectation is...and I'm curious- has anyone been in this situation? Opinions on having kids
during med school vs residency? Does timing/schedule really matter or is parenthood
basically the same no matter what your circumstances? Sadly, the only doctors I know are unmarried men so I am lacking a much needed honest woman's perspective...