My fiancé does not like his cousin's wife. He has stated multiple times that he doesn't want to invite her to the wedding. From what I understand she hasn't done anything to him specifically, he just think she's a nasty, rude woman. I think his cousin would possibly still come, even if his wife isn't invited.
Being that the invitation is coming from my parents saying "Mr. and Mrs. … request the honor of your presence at the marriage of their daughter" won't that come across as if we don't want her there?
I personally don't care if she is there or not as I've only met her twice, but I find it awkward/rude not to invite her. I don't think she would cause any drama. What is the proper etiquette? Should I just include her anyway? I don't want to go against my fiancé's wishes, but I don't want to be the cause of further drama either.
**UPDATE to original post**:
I misunderstood my fiancé. (While
he's not a fan of his cousin's wife, she is invited.) It is a business
partner/friend's wife who he doesn't want invited. She has said some
nasty things about my fiancé and his family, and I can't fault him for
not wanting her there. I've never met her.
He talked to his
business partner about it when we got engaged, and he understands.
(Sadly, his BP's marriage is not a healthy/happy one. I'm only saying
that because others assumed her being excluded would cause a rift in the
relationship between my fiancé and his business partner, or the BP's
marriage.) I think I have to side with my fiancé on this one. We
shouldn't feel obligated to pay for/invite someone to our wedding when
they've insulted the groom, simply because they're still married to one
of the invited guests.
I don't feel I need to be defensive here. I
just didn't want people jumping to conclusions about my fiancé as it
seems the responses I got were quite heated.
Thanks!