Hello! I'm trying to gauge whether my concerns with the bachelorette situation I've found myself in are justified...The situation:-I've asked that a particular bridesmaid (not the MoH) plan the bachelorette since it will be in her city, San Diego (the rest of us are driving distance away). -Although she's the only one not traveling, she's expressed concerns with it being between Jan-April because that's her busy season at work (we work in the same industry) but my wedding is in early May. -Once I pressed forward with a weekend in March, and once I researched all options and at last found an Airbnb I think everyone will really enjoy, she asked that I front the money for the Airbnb. The rationale was that all women attending know me, but not all know her, so they would likely feel more comfortable reimbursing me. -We've asked several times that women only list themselves as "attending" if they are truly committed, and 15 are coming. The Airbnb for all 15 of us has cost me $2,000 for the weekend.-I'm now tasked with following up individually with all 15 women, and it is very uncomfortable asking people repeatedly for money. The facebook event with the date and the approx price per person (which I stuck to when booking) has been posted for a very long time, so I would have hoped that it wouldn't come as such sudden notice to anyone. I think that, at least, my bridesmaids could assist me in reaching out to those who have not paid. Is that a justified ask? Does anyone have best practices in these scenarios, where you have to pay up front and then seek reimbursement, to make sure you don't get stiffed by anyone who bails? Thanks!
I'm setting the timer to "you're all mean and don't understand my situation." 10...9...8...
Eeeeeek terrible situation all around! One of the first bachelorette parties I went to was OOT. I noticed the bride didn't have a purse, and the MOH was paying for things. I just figured either the MOH was being nice or she was holding the bride's cards & cash. Nope. After the weekend, she sent out an email telling us we all owed $x to cover the bride's expenses for the weekend. It was never discussed with us beforehand, and we weren't told it was OOT until we got the invite. We're still friends, but damn if that wasn't a really shitty thing to do.