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Etiquette question...

tmc26tmc26 member
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edited January 2017 in Vow Renewals
Since it's a vow renewal, should I get bridal party gifts? We'll only have 3 bridesmaids/groomsmen.

So many untraditional things are acceptable in the world today. We did not have a big wedding the 1st time so with noone paying for this other than us, I'd say I can do whatever the heck & have whomever the heck we want. Thank you to those who provided HELPFUL feedback ;)
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    charlotte989875charlotte989875 member
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    tmc26 said:
    Since it's a vow renewal, should I get bridal party gifts? We'll only have 3 bridesmaids/groomsmen
    I think if you're asking someone to stand up in your ceremony you should get them a gift to thank them for doing so. 
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    Jen4948Jen4948 member
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    One of the differences between vow renewals and weddings is that you don't have wedding parties.

    But if you do ask anyone to be your attendant, then yes, get them a gift.
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    CMGragainCMGragain member
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    edited January 2017
    Bridesmaids?  At a Vow Renewal?  What?

    If you want HELPFUL advice, here is an etiquette site for Vow Renewals: 

    http://www.idotaketwo.com/blog/vow-renewal-etiquette-2/

    The first thing that it says is that Vow Renewals are not second weddings.  Have a beautiful day and a wonderful vow renewal ceremony, but if you are trying to turn it into your second-chance wedding, you will look very foolish.
    tmc26 said:
    Since it's a vow renewal, should I get bridal party gifts? We'll only have 3 bridesmaids/groomsmen.

    So many untraditional things are acceptable in the world today. We did not have a big wedding the 1st time so with noone paying for this other than us, I'd say I can do whatever the heck & have whomever the heck we want. Thank you to those who provided HELPFUL feedback ;)

    There is NOTHING traditional about a vow renewal ceremony.  They are a very recent thing.  Yes, they do have rules, just like a wedding has rules.  If you want us to give you permission to do "whatever the heck & have whomever the heck you want" then you will not get it here.  Your statement is very defensive, and somewhat insulting to your guests.
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    AddieCakeAddieCake member
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    Yes, if you have people stand up with you, then they should be given gifts. 
    What did you think would happen if you walked up to a group of internet strangers and told them to get shoehorned by their lady doc?~StageManager14
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    OurWildKingdomOurWildKingdom member
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    tmc26 said:
    Since it's a vow renewal, should I get bridal party gifts? We'll only have 3 bridesmaids/groomsmen.

    So many untraditional things are acceptable in the world today. We did not have a big wedding the 1st time so with noone paying for this other than us, I'd say I can do whatever the heck & have whomever the heck we want. Thank you to those who provided HELPFUL feedback ;)
    Wow, that's rude and childish.
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    southernbelle0915southernbelle0915 mod
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    How long have you been married?
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    CMGragainCMGragain member
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    We'll never hear from this one again.  She's already ordered her wedding gown.
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    Knottie6394f6b22a913594Knottie6394f6b22a913594 member
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    Definitely get them a gift :) . I hope you have a wonderful renewal!
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