When I got engaged, I really didn't expect to do any of the traditional pre-wedding stuff; this is my second wedding, and I am really just interested in having a fun celebration with all our loved ones on our day, and then getting to the being married of it all. My fiance and I have decided to forego many of the traditional things you see at weddings nowadays, and one of those things is the bridal party. It will be just us and our officiant playing any sort of role, though we are extending an open invitation to a handful of our closest family and friends to come and hang out with us, have lunch with us, etc., before the ceremony (if they would like to do that).
The thing is, I have two women very close to me who have offered to throw me pre-wedding events such as a bridal shower and/or bachelorette party, and I'm not sure whether to accept. Together, they have already thrown a surprise engagement party for us (we really had zero idea what we were walking into). It was so thoughtful of them, and a really lovely time!
I suppose I just feel a little bit strange about them spending all this time and effort on planning things for me/us, because I have zero intention of asking either woman to be a bridesmaid. I've made this clear to them, and they seem totally fine with it. They know what they mean to me, and they've both said they would be happy to just spend time with me on the day without having to spend money on a dress. I'm not opposed to having pre-wedding events, but there's a nagging feeling that it would be... I don't know, ungracious(?) to accept their offers given the circumstances.
Am I totally over-thinking this? What would you do?
It's also 100% possible I am just letting some of my feels about being a second-time bride give me anxiety here...
[Edited for clarity.]