So all the advice sites are like "Step 1: Figure out your budget." Then break down the averages of where you should expect that money to go, but how do you figure out that initial number?
edit: I'm pretty easy. Small wedding (less than 100 people), a Wednesday in october. My dream venue just so happen to give discounts for having less than 100, being out of season, and on a weekday. Also it's naturally gorgeous so I don't have to do much in the way of decorating. All I care about other than the venue, is my dress. It's my guy who's trying to go crazy with food and table runners
edit 2: also, I'm getting married just outside of Seattle, so everything is expensive here too.