Bridal party gifts are to thank your bridal party for being in your wedding. They’re gifts for them, not for you. The typical advice for on this forum is to shop for your wedding party like you would for their birthdays.
If you want to give the wedding party matching things because they’ll look cute in pictures, know that these are photo props and not gifts. Underwear is not an appropriate photo prop because it should not be visible in photos. Asking your bridesmaids to take “funny” pictures where their underwear shows is not OK.
If, for some reason, all of your wedding party members love receiving underwear as a gift and that is what you would buy each of them for their birthdays, please ensure the following:
- It does not say “bridesmaid” or anything wedding-related on it.
- It’s the right size.
- It’s the preferred style of the recipient.
- You give it in private, so the recipient does not have to open underwear in front of others, which could be uncomfortable.
- You include a receipt.
Obviously, the easiest solution is not to give underwear as a gift. This will prevent your bridesmaids from being like me and having no way to return their “gift” of brand-new underwear that is not their size or style.
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