Dear Prudence,
Is there a newer definition of the term “queer” than I am familiar with? Growing up, “queer” seemed to be a pejorative that was reclaimed by the LGBT community. As a cis-gender man I’d worry about coming across odd, maybe offensive, if I called a gay or lesbian friend “queer,” but it was a term they claimed for themselves. (Which I totally understand.) It seems as if “queer” now seems to refer to either bisexual or gender-neutral people, although from context it’s not quite clear to me which one it is (or both?) Not that labels matter, but it does help in understanding how people classify themselves.