Can I just rant for a minute here, please?
A family member of mine just got engaged. He's one of my favorite people, and he and his FI have been together for almost a decade. I'm super stoked for him.
BUT they decided to have a destination wedding, 3 hours' flight from everyone either one of them know, in about 2 months. Which, you know, is cool, but they're making it SO obvious that they just wanted to elope and they're doing the bare minimum to invite people they think they "should" without having to actually have guests.
So far they've:
- Told everyone they were engaged & the date and city of the wedding via text, yesterday.
- In the same text, invited some of us explicitly. For others, they expected that just having that information was the same as being asked to come.
- Gave us a little less than 48 hours to make the decision (so, yes, the "RSVP" is tomorrow, though the wedding is in Sept.)
- Booked a super inconvenient location knowing that most people couldn't afford it.
H and I can't afford to book anything immediately, and I'm sure tickets will only get more expensive in the next few weeks, so we had to decline. They're going to have a celebration of marriage party up here after the fact, so at least we can make that. If we had 3 or 4 months to plan, we could budget for it, but we're not stressing ourselves out when it's so clearly not important to them for us to be there.
I'm actually REALLY upset though. I really want to go to his wedding, because he's always been really supportive of me. It just feels like he pushed all the guilt/blame for not being there on us by making it possible for us to come in the most unrealistic way he could think of.