Engagement Party-families in different states
So I just got engaged a little bit ago (yaaaaaaay!) and our families want to have an engagement party. My FI and I would LOVE to mostly because we would love for our families to get to know each other Here's the problem: my parents live in Massachusetts (with extended fam in CT and NY). My FI's parents live in NJ (with his extended fam in NJ, PA and MD). We live outside of Philadelphia.
Here's the issue. My mom wants to host a party in MA, but then my FI says no one from his side will be able to make it most likely. My mom says no one from my side will come if we have it here. I really don't wanna do two parties, the point was for our families to meet. Both sides are being pretty difficult and do not want to budge
Any tips or advice?? Has anyone dealt with this???