I recently asked my cousin if his 3 year old son could be our ring bearer, and my other cousin joined the conversation saying she thought it would be a good idea if her 11 year daughter was the flower girl (she said it tactfully, I didn't think she was rude or anything). But I told her we had thought of forgoing the flower girl since we didn't know anyone young enough. But I feel like I have hurt her feelings. So I just wanted to get some advice. Is 11 too old?