I absolutely love the idea of a first look photo-shoot. It's intimate and compliments the low-key personality of FI and I. I have mentioned multiple times to people, including FMIL, that FI and I will meet alone to have a first look, then travel to the venue to take pictures with family. We recently had our engagement photo-shoot and the conversation of the first look came up, when she says "Mama would like to be there" in a baby voice, referring to herself.
I've had multiple disagreements in the past with FMIL about several aspects of the wedding. At one point she said our wedding was going to be a shit show and threatened to tell her family not to show up if we held our ceremony in a chapel instead of a church. All revolving around the fact that FI and I want simple and low-key and she wants a big fancy wedding.
I know some brides choose to have family at their first look. We are choosing to not to. I did not extend an invitation to any of my family members to go to the first look.
Is she ignoring my previous statements, or thinking FI will say jump in and say "yeah, come along!"?
How do I politely tell her, I want it to just be FI and I?