Fully understanding what all my friends said about family drama coming out when planning wedding lol.
Here's the situation. I was casually going over the list of invites with my parents (who are paying) during dinner. (aka just talking about the "non-obvious" invites/maybes) And my mom asked if I had my grandma's sister on the list or my grandpa's brother. I was mildly unaware my grandparents had siblings...so no their not on the list but if its important to my mom for them to come sure. (again. parents are paying)
Then my Dad asked if I was inviting Suzy*, Sandy* and Bob* my uncles kids from his first marriage. I said no and he seems shocked and said "but they're you're first cousins"
Yes, but I met Suzy and Sandy once at their father's (my uncles) funeral. I've met Bob maybe 3 times my entire life. I didn't know Suzy and Sandy existed until a few months before my uncle passed away.
I would be like "sure whatever they can come" but his other kids (one is his step son but lived/raised him since he was 2) who I've known/hung around my entire life told me that they don't really get along/like Suzy, Sandy & Bob.
They did not speak to each other at their father's funeral.
I want my cousins I'm closer to, to come to the wedding and be fully comfortable. Yes we are all adults and everyone could put their differences aside for the evening but I don't want them to have to. Like I said. They would have a better time if their siblings weren't there.
Any advice or opinions??
TIA